I am so sorry that I was one to get sensitive about that post. But I am so glad there is a new awakening on this forum. Thank you SA. You are an inspiration.
It was surely NOT
you Drerio.....going by her words here >>>
Rags said: " I cringe when I hear people brag about how great their marriage is or how they are with their best friend all the time".
A few of my responses were recently on her Wedding Rings
thread .....I was making a specific point to how a couple can be very much in love/ committed & still take their rings off - not thinking all that much of it ...that is doesn't = their marriage is on the rocks (but this depends on the couple of course- their personal views -like anything else)..... did I go a little over board in expressing this .....well... I was just BEING ME!
Just went & looked at that thread again to see if I said anything about being best friends.... Mystery Solved.....I posted a pic of our Wedding napkins which speaks of ...
"this day I will marry MY FRIEND
It was ME Drerio !!
I am not sure how I feel about this.....if my posts sicken someone to this degree.... should I
Ya know I've been posting 3 + yrs here ...I'll try to do a recap of where it wasn't all gushing....... 1.
My very 1st thread was about how I wanted my husband to be MORE Dominant in BED...sharing my frustration when my hormones were acting up... 2.
I did a thread explaining how I feel "Repression"
stole from us...how we missed each other for many years...exploring / being more creative .... I was angry
..a well of emotions...& felt compelled to speak on such things so others wouldn't make these mindless mistakes in their early marriages as I/we did ...though this doesn't seem to be a common problem at TAM... (more on a christian forum likely ...been there, done that...& got thrown off) .....I guess I am too immoral for them.
It once again begs the question.... Where do I belong ?@#$%^ 3.
I did a thread on Resentment
explaining how I was blindsided to learn, when we opened up the sex dialog FINALLY ...that even those years he seemed so happy & I WAS...that my husband was slowly & silently building resentment towards me...wanting me to suffer as he was....when I was too into our kids & he wanted more
. I've done a thread asking if I WHINE too much ....openly sharing how I have caused my husband some grief in an area that I wanted MORE from him....I took some heat for that... those suggesting I have been playing it up... making our marriage sound better than it was all this time... no, not really... I was just trying to show... NO marriage is Perfect you see... and we all have little fights/ squabbles...a little conflict is as normal as the sun coming up ....but this is no way has to take away from a beautiful thing...
So ya know... it wouldn't matter if one GUSHs or one vulnerably opens themselves up saying..."HEY, look at me, this is where I struggle" ....one thing in life is as certain as DEATH and TAXES...I think they forgot to add this to the mix.... the critics are on every corner.
We all have our moments....can we be REAL about it - and still be greatly loved... I say YES!
Dare I say I'm crazily deeply madly in love .....I am passionate about Marriage (this keeps me ticking here)....I am enthusiastic about "amorous" Intimacy...the role this plays in our overall happiness... It's just not a subject I have grown tired of ...as yet.
I do so wish this upon all.