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post #16 of 179 (permalink) Old 06-10-2013, 03:18 PM
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A few years ago I had to settle my bachelor uncle's estate. My husband supported me completely, from fronting money for the funeral to driving me from Newark airport to Passaic (a very scary thing for this Midwestern gal).

He never once complained that maybe my eccentric uncle was part of my crazy family, or that I would never sort out New Jersey estate tax laws. We have always been there for each other, and it has made our marriage much stronger to weather the difficulties together.
Anytime a family member is dying this can easily put a strain on a relationship. We have survived FIL, My parents and sister... through it all we supported each other. Treated in-laws as if they were our own blood family.

On that note, I really have to give credit to my wife's family (extend family) that helps in so many small ways. This adds up in helping our marriage and not hurting it at all. It take a village to keep a marriage strong.

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Newark airport to Passaic is scary no matter what.

Driving segway - we compromise well and usually easily reach a consensus. She learned to drive at 30 because we compromised where we would live after we got married. She still isn't a fan of driving but when moved further out she knew she would have drive more. And she does but sometimes needs my help, I'll show her how to get somewhere by actually driving her there.



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Speaking of families, ours all gets along with one another. He has a larger family than I do and I love them. They're quite a bunch. It's unusual though, not too many of them are in long term marriages, especially in our age group. Nevertheless, when we all get together, my head swims from laughing and catching up. They have family meetings and even a board of directors to head up family stuff. Last year, the elder members stepped down, and that left my H and his cousins to the task. I was nominated and voted in as the family secretary. They must really like me.
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He's steady and reliable, a constant for the kids and grandchild. His heart is in the right place, even if he doesn't get things right all the time (well who does).

He's hardworking and industrious. He doesn't winge about his health issues.

Oh, and somehow he's managed to put up with me all these years and I can't stop loving him (even when I've tried).

And last but not least, he's the BEST kisser in all the world. The phrase, sweeter than wine cames to mind. His kisses can truly take me into another world.

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Let's shift gears here. I'm tired of reading all the negative threads out there. I post on the ones where I feel I can help out, but it can be a drain. So let's post about what we love about our spouse and marriage.

I love the fact that my wife and I can talk about anything. Whenever an issue comes up that bothers us - whether it's something one of us did, work related, friend related, etc - we're talking about it. I think we squash a lot of bigger problems when we talk things out early on. Also, I like knowing that my wife wants to talk to me and seek comfort/advice about other problems affecting her.
The positive out of the negative was actually having methods to respond properly to such a negative situation. Before this you feel powerless and alone.

When I first came to TAM the advantage of it over the other sites, was a positive attitude, contructive attitude of handling this tramatic experience. On the other blogs, theres more hopelessness and people get beat down to some really low levels.

Positive about my new situation? Well, we communicate very well and have been building up our bedroom, piece by tiny piece.
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I used to believe that marriage was hard. With my H it's never been hard though. He's a kind and very thoughtful person by nature, and he loves me wholeheartedly. It shows in everything he does, not just what he says. He's the most consistent person I know, and for a person like me who finds it hard to trust, he has managed to win me over again and again with his actions. He's a spiritual person and he's quite mature and wise even though I'm 3 years older than he is. I love that he has an innocence about him that I don't have.

We do things every day for one another that show we care. It can be a phone call or a back rub or a note, but it's something. We understand that life is way too short to hold grudges and resentments for mistakes we make. In almost 11 years I can count 2 fights (if you even want to call it that) we've had, and we didn't let 12 hours go by without resolving whatever it was. He has a willingness to get along and compromise, just like me. You would think with SO many things in common we would get on each others nerves, but it hasn't happened yet. We're even more passionate about one another now than we were 11 years ago.
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Another thread reminded me of this, we share a hot beverage most mornings before starting our day (even if we're mad at each other).

I guess I'll add here that we have a rule, you can go to sleep mad, you can wake up mad but you can't go to sleep mad a second time. What ever it was usually gets worked out over the morning tea, after dinner the latest.
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Another thread reminded me of this, we share a hot beverage most mornings before starting our day (even if we're mad at each other).

I guess I'll add here that we have a rule, you can go to sleep mad, you can wake up mad but you can't go to sleep mad a second time. What ever it was usually gets worked out over the morning tea, after dinner the latest.
We've been working out early in the mornings. We haven't done it together, but we will eat breakfast together prior to the day starting. It's nice to have one on one time like this.
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We laugh a lot together. We also make a great team when dealing with an issue with our children. I actually love the fact that we have never had a fight over raising our kids. Even with all our struggles in our marriage we make great parents together (We will see how we do in the teen years lol).

We like the same television shows and watch The Walking Dead together every Sunday night (well not right now waiting for season to start up again) but snuggling on the couch to watch a show is great.
Being that it is summer we rent movies and watch them once a week after putting the children to bed and we take turns picking the movie. I tease him when the choice he picks is not that great and if I pick a so called "chick flick" he rolls his eyes and suffers through it, sometimes he likes them too.

My favorite time is when we are in the back yard in the evening just having a conversation about nothing and everything at once. It reminds me of the way we were in the start of our relationship.
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These are great and are actually making me feel more positively about my marriage.

I love that we are supportive of each other. Husband has always been this way, very willing to support my dreams, wants, desires etc and I more recently have learned to play a more supportive role of his wants/needs. I love that we both make a good parenting team. I also love that want the other to be happy and try hard to work on our individual issues so we can be better people and partners.

The more I read the more I realize how much husband is probably better to me than him. This thread is a great reminder to me that I need to work on myself AND to work on being a better wife to him.

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This is a great thread because I tend to focus on the negative and here I am thinking about all the positives and the things that I love about my husband and our marriage. It makes the struggles feel really small right now! Thanks OP for posting this

Glad I came here to TAM today before work. It is a good way to start my day.
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It just amazes me how this wife knocks herself out for this family.

And kids are just so much fun. Best time of my life.
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My husband supports me and believes in me even when I doubt myself. He always pushes me to do better and is there to hold me when I fall.
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A baby... Girrllll! We're sooooo excited. I guess I'm more excited for H because a boy as oldest would have been fine with me and of course a little girl is just precious. But it took us so long to conceive that he think just in case we can't have another one a girl will be close with her parents even after she's grown. Silly goose!

Anyway he couldn't stop smiling and rubbing my belly. It sucked that he had to drop back to work for a couple hours but he will be going in late tomorrow and so will I.
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A baby... Girrllll! We're sooooo excited. I guess I'm more excited for H because a boy as oldest would have been fine with me and of course a little girl is just precious. But it took us so long to conceive that he think just in case we can't have another one a girl will be close with her parents even after she's grown. Silly goose!

Anyway he couldn't stop smiling and rubbing my belly. It sucked that he had to drop back to work for a couple hours but he will be going in late tomorrow and so will I.
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