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Going on vacation and trips together, expanding horizons, raising children together, seeing a new way of looking at things, having someone who cares and is willing to help when you are ill, having someone who knows you better than you know yourself, being with a good person, having company.

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...having someone who knows you better than you know yourself...
This sentiment bugs me. No one knows you better than you know yourself, they just don't. I think the better phrasing may be (and correct me if you don't think it's accurate), "they call me on my bulls**t when I don't want to own up." When they do that, someone translates it as, "oh, yeah, you're right, boy you really know me..."
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This sentiment bugs me. No one knows you better than you know yourself, they just don't. I think the better phrasing may be (and correct me if you don't think it's accurate), "they call me on my bulls**t when I don't want to own up." When they do that, someone translates it as, "oh, yeah, you're right, boy you really know me..."
Well, there is truth to what you are saying.

I do think my dh realizes things about me that I am not aware of, though. I can be pretty idealistic, and he more realistic, at least in some ways.

People observing us from the outside can know things about us that we, always on the inside, just may not be able to see.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
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Great idea for a thread, Plan 9

He's so good-looking.

I still want him so much.

He smells good. His natural smell, I don't mean colognes.

He's so funny. Not comedian funny. Just ordinary, little remarks and facial gestures.

He has good hygiene.

He is kind to animals.

He has practicality and an eye for details that I completely lack.

He has a quiet, private spirituality.

He tears up at genuinely sad or touching things he sees on TV. It's kind of a trip when I look over and see how his eyes look.

Never hassled me or pressured me to have kids. Which would have been a dealbreaker for me.

We allow each other alone time.

I don't eat meat or wear leather. He does. We both accept that difference about each other.


It made me feel good to see that other couples here also claim that they have fun going grocery shopping. We always have.

We used to have to go to the laundromat in our early 20's. God, we had a blast We would watch the clothes tumble through the glass door and he would say something like, "if I was that black T-shirt this is what I would sound like (then make falling and spinning sounds)" I know it sounds dumb; but it wasn't.

So, many things I could list.

I don't know what I'd be if I wasn't married to him.
Oh honey....your post made me smile....your marriage sounds so refreshing....I am glad you are on TAM
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I love this kind of thread! It's nice to see great things instead of focusing on what is wrong.

Our main goals in life is to make each other happy.

We let each other know how much we love each other.

He is generous.

Can admit when he's wrong.

He loves animals as much as I do.

He always has the best intentions.

We like to see each other in our elements.

We are proud of each other.

We get each other weird things.

We have a million inside jokes.

We know each other so well...so look or comment goes unnoticed.

When we aren't with each other for longer than usual it starts to get uncomfortable. We need each other around.

He is my best friend in the world that I can tell anything to. We just can't shake each other lol.
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This sentiment bugs me. No one knows you better than you know yourself, they just don't. I think the better phrasing may be (and correct me if you don't think it's accurate), "they call me on my bulls**t when I don't want to own up." When they do that, someone translates it as, "oh, yeah, you're right, boy you really know me..."
Honest truth my husband knew I was pregnant before I did all but one time, that's 6 times. He often knew that I was truly in labor before I knew it. And yes there are times that I see that he is sinking into a funk before he sees it and it happens in reverse also. So yeah, sometimes he does know me better than I know myself.
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[So hope you guys can get your own place soon and find a method of bc that works for you -- referencing your other thread]
Thanks intheory!
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We have our ups and downs like everyone. However, we have always been faithful. We have gone through hell and back with the loss of a child. Sure, there are things that both of us wish could be improved in the relationship. However, there is no one we would rather go through life with.

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When it's a good day (which happens a couple times a week now), we can just sit and say nothing, do nothing and just "be".

It's calm and comfortable. Like an old shoe.


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Honest truth my husband knew I was pregnant before I did all but one time, that's 6 times. He often knew that I was truly in labor before I knew it. And yes there are times that I see that he is sinking into a funk before he sees it and it happens in reverse also. So yeah, sometimes he does know me better than I know myself.
Similar here.

My husband can notice things about me, that I don't always see. He knew I was pregnant before I did, too. He asked if I was pregnant, I said no. Didn't think I was. Took a test and it turned out he was right. I also can see things about my husband, that he doesn't always notice about himself, so it goes both ways.

I also think I see glimmers of the man I dated, the man I fell in love with again and it's been great to see.

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I love that my husband cares about me, as in really cares and I can trust him completely to take care of me if am unable to. And when am sick which unfortunately is often, he takes care of everything in the house and puts me to bed, like a baby. And checks up on me during the day.
I feel safe

I also love the fact that I don't need a pillow to sleep cos am always wrapped like a doll around him and he never complains that I suffocate him or that he is too hot

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The thing that drew me to him the most, he is so sweet. He is nice to everyone, and especially to me.
He is a wonderful father.
He makes me feel like the most special woman in the world.
He cares about my needs in bed. Actually CARES, more than about his own.
He makes LOVE to me instead of just sex.
I love the way it feels for him to hold me, physically and emotionally.
Through all the crap we've been through, my heart has never felt so safe with someone.
There is not a day that he doesn't greet me with a smile on his face. There is a happiness about him that cannot be extinguished.
He works so that I can stay home with my baby.
He never treats me with anything but love.
When we did have problems, he actually wanted to FIX it. He went to counseling and changed it and admitted his mistakes.
We have so much in common. We can do anything together.
We have a passion that will never go away. <3

Love this thread, btw.
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Someone can definitely know you better than you know yourself at times -- like you feel down about something and you don't know why, and they explain it to you.
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Today was the first time i stared into my wife's eye's during sex. We have been married for 17 years and from the beginning i felt self conscious about my sex face lol. But after reading a post from someone on here yesterday saying they always look into each others eyes, made me do it.

We have a pretty decent sex life but....i think i actually made love to my wife for the first time. She has always been used to turning her head and keeping her eyes closed, but after a few times she noticed i was into her and nothing else existed.

She said it felt awkward a little but her overall body movement and actions were different today. She was into me in a whole different way as well. All i can say was it was amazing to me. I just felt so connected, i am kinda lost for words on how to explain it. YAYY!!!

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Today was the first time i stared into my wife's eye's during sex. We have been married for 17 years and from the beginning i felt self conscious about my sex face lol. But after reading a post from someone on here yesterday saying they always look into each others eyes, made me do it.

We have a pretty decent sex life but....i think i actually made love to my wife for the first time. She has always been used to turning her head and keeping her eyes closed, but after a few times she noticed i was into her and nothing else existed.

She said it felt awkward a little but her overall body movement and actions were different today. She was into me in a whole different way as well. All i can say was it was amazing to me. I just felt so connected, i am kinda lost for words on how to explain it. YAYY!!!
What a beautiful post.......and I agree with you
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