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post #1 of 180 (permalink) Old 06-10-2013, 01:34 PM Thread Starter
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Let's shift gears here. I'm tired of reading all the negative threads out there. I post on the ones where I feel I can help out, but it can be a drain. So let's post about what we love about our spouse and marriage.

I love the fact that my wife and I can talk about anything. Whenever an issue comes up that bothers us - whether it's something one of us did, work related, friend related, etc - we're talking about it. I think we squash a lot of bigger problems when we talk things out early on. Also, I like knowing that my wife wants to talk to me and seek comfort/advice about other problems affecting her.

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Good idea, this thread.

My wife and I laugh together nonstop. We joke and pick on each other all the time and are always playful in our interactions. In some ways, we never left that dating phase where you make up pet names, where one partner pretends to pout so the other one can kiss them out of it, where our running jokes cause us to break into hysterics while simultaneously baffling our friends, where we still have tickle fights.

Laughter is powerful medicine. Neither of us can get enough and both of us love to make the other laugh and smile.
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I think I have a really long list of positives, but one that sticks out for me is that we have fun and LAUGH together all the time.

We can make a trip to the grocery store funny as hell. His sense of humor is a bit sillier than mine which can lean on the smart-ass side, but we balance each other out very well. We have a ton of inside jokes and we like to toss out funny movie lines to each other all the time. God that man is fun.
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My wife and I will regularly joke around a lot too. We've been going out on date nights once a week. We don't really go out to anywhere special, but we try to regularly go out weekly just the two of us. We joke around that our Friday or Saturday date night will be "Dinner and Sam's Club", or Dinner and Target, etc... I love that about my wife and marriage. We enjoy the time spent together away from the kids a lot more than the destinations themselves. So long as we can be together to talk and laugh together, it's all we need for our date nights.
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People probably think it's not a good thing (obviously not me) but we're one another's best friend. There's not one thing he doesn't know about me. And I feel safe telling him things because he's a great secret keeper. I am too, so he's shared things with me he never would with anyone else.
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My wife and I will regularly joke around a lot too. We've been going out on date nights once a week. We don't really go out to anywhere special, but we try to regularly go out weekly just the two of us. We joke around that our Friday or Saturday date night will be "Dinner and Sam's Club", or Dinner and Target, etc... I love that about my wife and marriage. We enjoy the time spent together away from the kids a lot more than the destinations themselves. So long as we can be together to talk and laugh together, it's all we need for our date nights.
This is great! And also very necessary. Dating in your marriage should never stop. Putting each other first should never stop either. You put her first to get her, you have to keep doing that.
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People probably think it's not a good thing (obviously not me) but we're one another's best friend. There's not one thing he doesn't know about me. And I feel safe telling him things because he's a great secret keeper. I am too, so he's shared things with me he never would with anyone else.
IMHO, your spouse SHOULD be your best friend. Considering the goal is to be together for a lifetime, you should spend it with your best friend and lover. That's how I see it.
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We share a marvelous sense of adventure. My husband's job as a commercial pilot has allowed us to travel around the world, experiencing different cultures, scenery, foods, and customs. He is a bit of a pirate, and I love that we have so many wonderful memories of the places that we have visited.

He has also helped me overcome many of my faults, such as holding grudges, pouting, and worrying too much about what others think of me.

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I wrote this in Social earlier today. I started to think about writing up "something positive". Don't like writing so I just started with how we got together. I don't know why but it kind of surprised me, the things that brought us together are still important (and happening), including that we just like talking and hanging with each other. Go figure.

Also gotta have a laughter.

Along with, or related to, being best friends we're a great team. We met at work and even before dating she made a nurse/surgeon analogy. We cook together most evenings, really good for us, quality time and we get to talk, laugh and heck somebody's always coping a feel. Just realized to along with loving food, our joint weight loss efforts are brining/keeping us nicely together.



Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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I love that he is becoming a godly man and true leader of our family right before my eyes. Love his sense of humor and that we have the same goals in life. Love that he can laugh about himself. Supports my crazy. How he loves on our kids. How we can't keep our hands off each other. We are the king and queen of PDA and love it. How he is strong when I am not. That he is forever looking into how to better our marriage. His love for music. The way we constantly rip insider jokes. That he has opened up to me like he had never before. That he willingly eats what I try to cook. That he is clean and takes pride in personal hygiene. That he is a non-smoker and doesn't drink coffee. The way only he can kiss!! There are 1000 more things I love about him.
There is truly nobody that I'd rather spend my time with, even when we disagree on things.
I love that he's not perfect nor doesn't think himself to be.
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I love that my husband and I work out together at the same gym. We do it while we wait for one of our kids to finish an extracurricular activity nearby. The time goes by so fast when we're exercising together. On the days we can't work out for whatever reason, we both feel very disappointed. It's become a routine for us to work out together a several evenings a week. He pushes me to do things at the gym I would have avoided had I gone by myself. I pretend to spot him when he lifts heavy weights though I hope I never have to actually lift one of those weights off him. We even have a silly slogan we use at the start of each workout. It's an inside joke that no one else would get but us. I love that I can be totally makeup free, sweaty with messy hair and he still thinks I'm beautiful and hot.
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18+ years of marriage and we never stop communicating with each. No topic is off-limits. Needless to say we have had rough patches but we never ever looked at it any other way but to work on it. It was always about each of us taking personal responsibility in our short comings while also being patient with each other.

And, yes we still laugh together and enjoy each other's company. And, lets not forget even after all this time intimacy is still an important part of this relationship. I am not one to tell all, but let us just say we still know how to push each others buttons (sexually ). I believe learning the other person makes sex in long-term relationships better not boring as some might think.

Finally, I think it is important that each of us have made a personal commitment to take care of our health. A bit of hedonism but more importantly it is about being selfless so as to delay that "in sickness..." part of our vows. We know at some point one will likely have to care for the other, but the longer we can put that off the better for both of us.
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My husband is mellow, passive, creative, a deep thinker...

I am aggressive, a go getter, practical, logical...

And together we make the PERFECT human being LOL I believe marrying him was the best decision Ive ever made!
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My husband is mellow, passive, creative, a deep thinker...

I am aggressive, a go getter, practical, logical...

And together we make the PERFECT human being LOL I believe marrying him was the best decision Ive ever made!
My wife is a planner, an organizer and she is great at keeping us on task at home. But she is terrible under pressure. I'm more disorganized and I don't plan as much for our events. But when the chips are down and we need a quick solution to get out of a situation, then I can come up with some pretty creative fixes. I'm great under pressure but get bored with routine. My wife thrives by setting up our routine but cracks under pressure. Just one example of how we bring different strengths to the marriage to create something special.
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A few years ago I had to settle my bachelor uncle's estate. My husband supported me completely, from fronting money for the funeral to driving me from Newark airport to Passaic (a very scary thing for this Midwestern gal).

He never once complained that maybe my eccentric uncle was part of my crazy family, or that I would never sort out New Jersey estate tax laws. We have always been there for each other, and it has made our marriage much stronger to weather the difficulties together.

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