I have been married since 2000 (to the same person!). I still like my wife which, I think, is pretty cool. We have two awesome kids that rock the house but also have two kids that rock the house and test aforementioned liking of wife and marriage. That sums a lot of it up.
I'm also a marriage counselor, once jumped off an 80 foot cliff in Maui, and rapped in a hip-hop group in the 90s. Those two last things went together but it's long story and it was a long, long, very lucky, jump. I grew up in New England and raked sand traps on a golf course as a kid. That was before global warming and when it was only warm enough to be outside during the five minutes of Summer we had. We now live just outside of buttoned-down Washington, DC, where people get rah-rah excited about politics and "the fed." For fun we try to remember names of the members of congress or figure out the secrets to the layout of DC's street grid (ok, only 1/2 of this is true).
I'm a recovered evangelical, used to be able to read the Bible in Greek (quite poorly I might add), was once a chaplain for a bunch of R.V. campgrounds in the Poconos, and somehow choked at a chance to impress U2's tour manager who attended one of our shows (that was the hip-hop thingy). In grad school I studied clinical social work instead of ancient Biblical Greek as planned, hung up the rapper persona, and helped schizophrenic crack addicts pull their lives together for a few years while getting my clinical license. I learned more about how the mind works more from attempting to keep my sanity and civility in marriage than any midnight ER visit with an overdosed, under-medicated psychotic patient. Being married and doing marriage counseling are the hardest things in my life to learn to do excellently and I don't think I'll ever be satisfied that I've learned enough. When I get close, I'll let you know. For now, I am content to ponder whether the town of Chevy Chase, Maryland, was named after the actor Chevy Chase or if it's the other way around--which seems unlikely. Who hasn't thought of this?
My hobbies, for those of you actually still reading this, are 1) waking up whenever our kids decide it's time to wake up; 2) wondering what our cats are thinking about 3) trying to beat my brothers at golf 4) going running in the pitch darkness of morning because the kids are up and what else are you going to do at 5am??? 5) Favorite movies are (not in order) Caddyshack, As Good As it Gets, American President, The Matrix, and A Christmas Carol (yeah that's a weird one but I had the version with George C. Scott memorized as a kid and I cry every year when I watch it. I also had Caddyshack memorized as a kid but never cried watching that, except if you count laughing as crying...)
Keith Miller is a marriage counselor in Washington DC and writes a blog called Love Good.