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H3rmit H3rmit is offline

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  • About H3rmit
    I am a:
    Female
    Relationship Status
    Marriage
    Length of time in current relationship:
    8-12 yrs.
    Sexual Orientation
    Undisclosed
    Biography
    Current situation is husband wants trial separation. He feels hurt by my anger and I feel hurt by him not dealing with stuff when it happened, and rewriting our history. I believe my poor anger management behaviour pattern has triggered his childhood trauma of bullying and more. Scary stuff. He's not sure we can be a couple again. :( So I'll be staying at a family cottage for 3 months, 500 km away. I can do my telecommuting from there just as well as here.

    He says we have a slim chance of being a couple again, but he does agree that would be best case scenario. We both have to heal, he agrees, and if we come back together it's starting over.

    I'm over 50 but he's my only romantic relationship ever. He's younger and ditto. I take responsibility for my anger, but clearly I was not effective enough for his liking. He has a different understanding of anger and other emotions than I do. We have so much in common, including some heinous codepency, I suppose you could call it.

    We have similar incomes, but I have more money. Our money is separate and he says we should do no-fault divorce if it comes to divorce. He's starting a brilliant career (that I of course greatly supported him in initiating) and I have done various things brilliantly, but they were just jobs, not really a career. So sad.
    Location
    Canada

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  • Last Activity: 02-06-2016 12:24 AM
  • Join Date: 10-03-2015

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10-11-2015
01:22 AM - H3rmit quoted sunblaster in post Re: I am separated and I donít know what to do with my marriage.
We went to counselling couple o...
10-05-2015
01:34 AM - H3rmit quoted warshaw in post Re: Trial separation - How much hope is there in this?
He had access to all your im...
10-04-2015
04:33 PM - H3rmit quoted warshaw in post Re: Trial separation - How much hope is there in this?
Some of the decisions you ha...
03:56 PM - warshaw quoted H3rmit in post Re: Trial separation - How much hope is there in this?
I have never had a reason n...
01:48 AM - H3rmit quoted aine in post Re: Getting annoyed
Get a formal separation a...
12:41 AM - H3rmit quoted tech-novelist in post Re: Trial separation - How much hope is there in this?
Well, since he is making progress ...
10-03-2015
11:45 PM - H3rmit quoted tech-novelist in post Re: Trial separation - How much hope is there in this?
What I see as abuse in your story:...
11:24 PM - H3rmit quoted tech-novelist in post Re: Trial separation - How much hope is there in this?
Your chances for anything positive...
08:40 PM - H3rmit quoted Mihpares in post Re: No mutual decisions
I feel a total lack of consid...
 
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