qbert |
Last Activity: 06-04-2012 10:26 PM
About Me
- About qbert
- I am a:
- Male
- Relationship Status
- Marriage
- Length of time in current relationship:
- 4-8 yrs.
- Sexual Orientation
- Heterosexual
- Biography
- Married to a wonderful woman who is horribly depressed. It's causing problems in our family and causing me to change who I am in a negative way.
Her mother committed suicide. I don't want that to happen to her!
I'm trying to "rise to the occasion" and be the man to save her, but I'm struggling to stay positive. Battling a lot of stress from self-employment, new baby, money troubles, wife's depression is at the heart of the biggest problems, though. No family or close friends to help. No one to talk to.
Looking for help understanding and making our marriage stronger and last forever.
I've had problems with anger management due to stress overload. I've hit things and yelled it scares my wife. Sometimes it's just all too much to handle. I want to stop all this negativity and I don't want us to live like this.
I've ready books like "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus," Dr. Phil's "Relationship Rescue," "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men"
I'm not an angry and controlling man. In fact, she's the one in control and despite my ability to debate (often too much to the point of arguing--I'm working on fixing that) I end up giving in to what she wants or needs. But books on abuse really have helped me learn a lot about some of my behaviors and find ways to stave off anger, but it just hasn't been enough to fix the problem.
A lot of our problems are just money related, and I'm learning to keep my stress away from her, but I really want to find some way for her to feel better.
Her mother committed suicide. I don't want that to happen to her!
To top things off, she has a rare hearing disorder. I'm afraid to say what it is, because it is very rare and would pop up in a search engine. She hears things way too well, and her brain focuses in on certain sounds that driver her to instant anger/depression/pain. Letters like S, P, T, or anything whistle-y. Breathing, snoring, chewing, etc. It's ruining her life and makes it so that we can't sleep in the same bed, eat in the same room, and me just talking causes problems because I do tend to whistle or make hissy sounds.
TO SUMMARIZE:
- I need help with my wife's depression.
- I need help with my anger and stress management.
- I will do anything to make this work.
Thank you so much for any help you can give!
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