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IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offIndy, thanks for giving us another update. I'm glad to hear you have the support of your step-son, brother, and sister-in-law. It sounds like you now have all your ducks in a row.Liked On: 03-03-2013, 10:08 PM
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Waking up to life liked post by Uptown On thread : Waking up to life's updateWaking, if he has strong BPD traits as you suspect, this hard attitude against an IC is to be expected. A BPDer is so fearful of abandonment that he will try to control nearly every aspect of your...Liked On: 03-03-2013, 10:44 AM
Posted On: 03-03-2013, 10:21 AM sunvalley liked post by Uptown On thread : Waking up to life's updateThat's just a feeling, Waking. Don't believe it. Because we excessive caregivers act on those feelings, we end up harming our spouses by enabling their immature behaviors. Instead of rushing in to...Liked On: 03-02-2013, 12:11 AM
Posted On: 02-02-2013, 06:50 PM Dreald liked post by Uptown On thread : Why My Marriage Failed in Just Over a YearAnother possibility, Dreald, is that she may have strong traits of both disorders. A recent study (pub. 2008) found that about 70% of BPDers also suffer from one or two other PDs like NPD, AvPD, or...Liked On: 03-01-2013, 01:00 PM
Posted On: 02-28-2013, 09:56 PM Waking up to life liked post by Uptown On thread : Wrong label on Codependency?Prodigal, sorry I wasn't clearer about that. I didn't mean "political" in the sense of government politics. Rather, I was referring to the strong politics going on inside any large nonprofit...Liked On: 03-01-2013, 06:10 AM
Posted On: 09-23-2012, 08:43 PM IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offIndy, if your W does have full blown BPD, your best chance of being told about it is to see a psychologist who has not treated or seen her. This is why I earlier suggested (post #28 above) you see...Liked On: 02-28-2013, 09:55 PM
Posted On: 02-28-2013, 09:05 PM IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : Refuses to talk or get helpMike, I agree with Kathy that the behaviors you describe -- temper tantrums, verbal abuse, anger that is triggered in seconds, always being "The Victim," and creating arguments over nothing at all --...Liked On: 02-28-2013, 08:53 PM
Posted On: 02-28-2013, 08:39 PM IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offYou may have ended up placing too high a value on being needed, as opposed to being loved for what you already are. On the other hand, everything you've said here indicates you are a loving, caring,...Liked On: 02-28-2013, 08:30 PM
Posted On: 02-28-2013, 06:04 PM IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offIndy, Pink was the one who suggested (post #181 above) that you mention two incidents to your therapist. One was the out-of-body experience your W reported -- an experience that is not uncommon for...Liked On: 02-26-2013, 09:50 PM
Posted On: 02-26-2013, 09:43 PM IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offTrenton, yes, I read it shortly after it was published in 2011. I am pleased that, for the BPDers, there is finally a study showing that -- even for those not being treated -- there is some...Liked On: 02-26-2013, 09:15 PM
Posted On: 02-26-2013, 09:08 PM john_lord_b3 liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offYou establish strong personal boundaries, making it clear that you will not stay in her presence while she is abusive and disrespectful. You then enforce those boundaries by leaving when she...Liked On: 02-25-2013, 10:24 PM
Posted On: 02-25-2013, 10:17 PM IndyTMI liked post by Uptown On thread : LD wife has turned me offYou establish strong personal boundaries, making it clear that you will not stay in her presence while she is abusive and disrespectful. You then enforce those boundaries by leaving when she...Liked On: 02-25-2013, 10:20 PM
Posted On: 02-25-2013, 10:17 PM Stuckinrut liked post by Uptown On thread : Wife with mental issues please helpStuck, so much of the population of Alaska lives in remote areas that it is common for therapists and medical doctors to conduct business there (e.g., therapy sessions and checkups) on the Internet...Liked On: 02-25-2013, 09:51 PM
Posted On: 02-24-2013, 04:25 PM Stuckinrut liked post by Uptown On thread : Wife with mental issues please helpNice metaphor, Pink. You are describing my BPDer exW. The only difference is that, whenever I would toss her the ring, she would grab it and allow me to pull her up from the raging seas. As soon...Liked On: 02-25-2013, 09:51 PM
Posted On: 02-25-2013, 07:43 PM Waking up to life liked post by Uptown On thread : Wife with mental issues please helpStuck, welcome to the TAM forum. The web cam is a wonderful idea. It is pointless to spend 8 hours driving to see a therapist you can see, in a few seconds, by flipping a switch on the Internet. I...Liked On: 02-25-2013, 07:50 PM
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