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  • About Young at Heart
    I am a:
    Male
    Relationship Status
    Marriage
    Length of time in current relationship:
    40-50 yrs.
    Sexual Orientation
    Heterosexual
    Biography
    I married my college sweetheart. We have two grown adult children on their own. For a while we drifted apart and hurt each other without knowing it. This progressed into a Sex Starved Marriage, where we seldom had sex but ultimately we liked each other. I got fed up and started to read relationship books and change myself (lost weight, got in shape and got into hobbies that made me happy).

    I learned through Chapman's 5 Language of Love that I have been telling my wife that I loved her each day, but she could not understand my love languages. I learned she has been telling me each day that she loved me, but not in my love languages.

    I learned from Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy, that I had to Get a Life and learn to become a man and not a covert contract pleaser. I also learned from MW Davis book the Sex Starved Marriage that I needed to do 180's to change the way my wife interacted with me.

    I put it all together and focused on providing her unconditional love, but as a non-codependent man. She saw the change and so I suggested marriage counseling with a noted national sex therapist. Within 5 months the therapist declared our marriage healed. That was about 4 years ago. There still are rough spots, but our marriage is so much better, not perfect, but more than I had dared dream for in the darkest hours of the SSM.

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  • Join Date: 01-06-2015

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04-19-2017
12:26 AM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Ladies, must your brain be turned off to be multi-Orgasmic?
Young at Heart I learned how to ...
04-17-2017
01:46 PM - Holdingontoit mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: what do I do?
Listen to Young at Heart. Stop showing your ...
03-14-2017
06:06 PM - peacem mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Do any men NOT enjoy facials, anal and cum shots?
Young at Heart I don't think its ...
02-25-2017
12:21 PM - SimplyAmorous mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Unhappy answers about desire
..... Great post by Young at Heart ...
02-14-2017
08:43 PM - katiecrna mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Dying for a good sex life
Thanks Young at Heart I appreciate your su...
05:37 PM - katiecrna mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Dying for a good sex life
Young at Heart Thank you so much fo...
09-28-2016
08:03 PM - TheTruthHurts mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Word to the Wise
Young at Heart a sex therapist reco...
09-20-2016
09:48 PM - norajane mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Question for the men - what am I doing wrong?
...s in your shoes. @Young at Heart is right about this,...
08-03-2016
08:49 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: What does taking charge look like
... I was, and the way Young at Heart 's wife were raised....
04-12-2016
02:48 PM - wantshelp mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Sexless and PIV or not?
...at happening. Young at Heart, how far apart were ...
03-13-2016
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03-02-2016
05:24 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I never go through with the battle plan
Excellent point Young at Heart. But I don't think U...
02-20-2016
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01-15-2016
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01-08-2016
04:11 PM - Lila mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I'm falling out of love - with the love of my life.
... Calling UMP and Young at Heart. They may have some...
12-22-2015
09:23 PM - JukeboxHero mentioned Young at Heart in post Sex-starved Youtube
...ickin' Link. No, Young at Heart, It's not the TED Ta...
12-09-2015
11:29 AM - Lila mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Help me...marriage sex life sucks!
...exual dysfunction. Young at Heart and his wife have ha...
10-22-2015
01:03 PM - ptomczyk11 mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Wife wants only affection and has zero desire for sex!
...================ Young at Heart Yes, what Michele W...
07-23-2015
03:42 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Open Relationship: I want a hall pass.
...u read any posts by Young at Heart? The dude was in you...
07-21-2015
06:07 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: My husband has a low sex drive but watches a lot of porn.
Young at Heart, I've read your stor...

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04-27-2017
09:30 AM - MyRevelation quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Husband has a strippers phone number and many photos... in this city. PLEASE HELP
This is not the 1950's or even the ...
04-26-2017
10:18 PM - sokillme quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Are people whose top love language words of affirmation more of a risk to cheat?
I would say that for words of affir...
08:50 PM - Young at Heart quoted lostrightnow in post Re: Cheating I think but she denies all of it
I've kept everything, the explici...
08:37 PM - Young at Heart quoted katiecrna in post Re: Are people whose top love language words of affirmation more of a risk to cheat?
Words of affirmation can simpl...
07:56 PM - Young at Heart quoted DustyDog in post Re: Are people whose top love language words of affirmation more of a risk to cheat?
Probably not...Gottman et al ...
07:25 PM - Young at Heart quoted MyRevelation in post Re: Husband has a strippers phone number and many photos... in this city. PLEASE HELP
Seems like you all glossed over t...
05:19 PM - katiecrna quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Are people whose top love language words of affirmation more of a risk to cheat?
My top love language is touch and m...
11:27 AM - Young at Heart quoted xerxes1974 in post Re: My wife wants an open marriage and I dont
F....I have been married for 17...
04-25-2017
08:11 PM - Young at Heart quoted picpea in post Re: I need help with sustaining my marriage
My husband wants a divorce....
08:01 PM - Young at Heart quoted Sunny3 in post Re: ?
I would love to. He doesn't...
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Most of the self-help books stress ...
02:03 PM - goingsolo12 quoted Young at Heart in post Re: becoming-okay-cheat-millennials article
There is a lot of changing culture....
12:57 PM - Young at Heart quoted redpoppies34 in post Re: Husband has a strippers phone number and many photos... in this city. PLEASE HELP
...I went googling to find out wh...
12:36 PM - Young at Heart quoted CantBelieveThis in post Re: becoming-okay-cheat-millennials article
Is it really as rampant as it seems ...
12:26 PM - Young at Heart quoted Tillaan in post
08:48 AM - Andy1001 quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Wife is putting off changing her surname...
If she has an engineering firm, it ...
12:38 AM - Young at Heart quoted serenity22 in post Re: Husband seems to not want/need sex.
I know that it is quite common ...
04-24-2017
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07:41 PM - Haiku quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Wife is putting off changing her surname...
In marriage counseling, I learned t...
 
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