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  • About Young at Heart
    I am a:
    Male
    Relationship Status
    Marriage
    Length of time in current relationship:
    40-50 yrs.
    Sexual Orientation
    Heterosexual
    Biography
    I married my college sweetheart. We have two grown adult children on their own. For a while we drifted apart and hurt each other without knowing it. This progressed into a Sex Starved Marriage, where we seldom had sex but ultimately we liked each other. I got fed up and started to read relationship books and change myself (lost weight, got in shape and got into hobbies that made me happy).

    I learned through Chapman's 5 Language of Love that I have been telling my wife that I loved her each day, but she could not understand my love languages. I learned she has been telling me each day that she loved me, but not in my love languages.

    I learned from Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy, that I had to Get a Life and learn to become a man and not a covert contract pleaser. I also learned from MW Davis book the Sex Starved Marriage that I needed to do 180's to change the way my wife interacted with me.

    I put it all together and focused on providing her unconditional love, but as a non-codependent man. She saw the change and so I suggested marriage counseling with a noted national sex therapist. Within 5 months the therapist declared our marriage healed. That was about 4 years ago. There still are rough spots, but our marriage is so much better, not perfect, but more than I had dared dream for in the darkest hours of the SSM.

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  • Last Activity: 06-16-2017 07:59 PM
  • Join Date: 01-06-2015

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05-09-2017
08:51 PM - Personal mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I think that I am being paranoid from reading TAM......or not
Young at Heart I've been there done...
04-19-2017
12:26 AM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Ladies, must your brain be turned off to be multi-Orgasmic?
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04-17-2017
01:46 PM - Holdingontoit mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: what do I do?
Listen to Young at Heart. Stop showing your ...
03-14-2017
06:06 PM - peacem mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Do any men NOT enjoy facials, anal and cum shots?
Young at Heart I don't think its ...
02-25-2017
12:21 PM - SimplyAmorous mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Unhappy answers about desire
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02-14-2017
08:43 PM - katiecrna mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Dying for a good sex life
Thanks Young at Heart I appreciate your su...
05:37 PM - katiecrna mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Dying for a good sex life
Young at Heart Thank you so much fo...
09-28-2016
08:03 PM - TheTruthHurts mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Word to the Wise
Young at Heart a sex therapist reco...
09-20-2016
09:48 PM - norajane mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Question for the men - what am I doing wrong?
...s in your shoes. @Young at Heart is right about this,...
08-03-2016
08:49 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: What does taking charge look like
... I was, and the way Young at Heart 's wife were raised....
04-12-2016
02:48 PM - wantshelp mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Sexless and PIV or not?
...at happening. Young at Heart, how far apart were ...
03-13-2016
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03-02-2016
05:24 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I never go through with the battle plan
Excellent point Young at Heart. But I don't think U...
02-20-2016
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01-15-2016
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01-08-2016
04:11 PM - Lila mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I'm falling out of love - with the love of my life.
... Calling UMP and Young at Heart. They may have some...
12-22-2015
09:23 PM - JukeboxHero mentioned Young at Heart in post Sex-starved Youtube
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12-09-2015
11:29 AM - Lila mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Help me...marriage sex life sucks!
...exual dysfunction. Young at Heart and his wife have ha...
10-22-2015
01:03 PM - ptomczyk11 mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Wife wants only affection and has zero desire for sex!
...================ Young at Heart Yes, what Michele W...
07-23-2015
03:42 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Open Relationship: I want a hall pass.
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06-19-2017
08:53 AM - badsanta quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Sex with a new partner changes vaginal bacteria
Researchers are trying to develop p...
06-16-2017
03:39 PM - Young at Heart quoted aine in post
03:25 PM - Young at Heart quoted Mommy3girls in post Re: Husband visited massage parlor
....So back in October I found o...
03:08 PM - Young at Heart quoted Faithful Wife in post Re: Sex with a new partner changes vaginal bacteria
A couple of thoughts.... If a f...
03:05 PM - Young at Heart quoted Anon Pink in post Re: Sex with a new partner changes vaginal bacteria
That is fascinating! .....O...
02:57 PM - Young at Heart quoted twoofus in post Re: Sex failure after 20 years
...Lately, however, she stil...
06-15-2017
08:32 PM - Young at Heart quoted Gloomy Sunday in post Re: Two weeks ago my wife was unfaithful. Trying to work it out, feels like hell on e
Two weeks ago, my wife went on a l...
06-12-2017
07:38 PM - Young at Heart quoted ren05 in post Re: Wife not Satisfied Anymore
Hi guys! i don't know how...
03:50 PM - Young at Heart quoted MrsAldi in post Re: Should Men Be Present During Childbirth?
My husband stated that he is...
03:31 PM - Young at Heart quoted jro in post Re: I love everything about her, expect one thing...
And its a big one, our ...
02:48 PM - Young at Heart quoted MEM20200916 in post Re: husband of 25 years has been cheating !!!
Hi, my situation is even worse. ...
06-10-2017
07:14 PM - MattMatt quoted Young at Heart in post Re: National Oral Day? 6/9
While I would love to celebrate thi...
05:03 PM - Herschel quoted Young at Heart in post Re: National Oral Day? 6/9
While I would love to celebrate thi...
06-09-2017
07:03 PM - Young at Heart quoted alittlehelp in post Re: Sexless Marriage and the Fantasy Girl
A bit more background for those ...
06:53 PM - Young at Heart quoted OldManMage in post Re: She wants rough sex?
Yeah, we aren't talking about f...
05:38 PM - Young at Heart quoted Thound in post Re: How cheap are you?
To sum it up power kills yo...
06-08-2017
08:11 PM - Thound quoted Young at Heart in post Re: How cheap are you?
I hope you have really good insuran...
05:40 PM - Young at Heart quoted jld in post Re: Does unconditional love have to be reciprocal?
Someone just told me it ...
05:29 PM - Young at Heart quoted Jessica38 in post Re: Husbands, How Would You Feel if Your Wife Posed Nude for Sexy Photos Taken By a G
I'm curious as to how many hus...
05:09 PM - Young at Heart quoted Thound in post Re: How cheap are you?
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