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  • About Young at Heart
    I am a:
    Male
    Relationship Status
    Marriage
    Length of time in current relationship:
    40-50 yrs.
    Sexual Orientation
    Heterosexual
    Biography
    I married my college sweetheart. We have two grown adult children on their own. For a while we drifted apart and hurt each other without knowing it. This progressed into a Sex Starved Marriage, where we seldom had sex but ultimately we liked each other. I got fed up and started to read relationship books and change myself (lost weight, got in shape and got into hobbies that made me happy).

    I learned through Chapman's 5 Language of Love that I have been telling my wife that I loved her each day, but she could not understand my love languages. I learned she has been telling me each day that she loved me, but not in my love languages.

    I learned from Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy, that I had to Get a Life and learn to become a man and not a covert contract pleaser. I also learned from MW Davis book the Sex Starved Marriage that I needed to do 180's to change the way my wife interacted with me.

    I put it all together and focused on providing her unconditional love, but as a non-codependent man. She saw the change and so I suggested marriage counseling with a noted national sex therapist. Within 5 months the therapist declared our marriage healed. That was about 4 years ago. There still are rough spots, but our marriage is so much better, not perfect, but more than I had dared dream for in the darkest hours of the SSM.

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  • Join Date: 01-06-2015

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03-14-2017
06:06 PM - peacem mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Do any men NOT enjoy facials, anal and cum shots?
Young at Heart I don't think its ...
02-25-2017
12:21 PM - SimplyAmorous mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Unhappy answers about desire
..... Great post by Young at Heart ...
02-14-2017
08:43 PM - katiecrna mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Dying for a good sex life
Thanks Young at Heart I appreciate your su...
05:37 PM - katiecrna mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Dying for a good sex life
Young at Heart Thank you so much fo...
09-28-2016
08:03 PM - TheTruthHurts mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Word to the Wise
Young at Heart a sex therapist reco...
09-20-2016
09:48 PM - norajane mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Question for the men - what am I doing wrong?
...s in your shoes. @Young at Heart is right about this,...
08-03-2016
08:49 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: What does taking charge look like
... I was, and the way Young at Heart 's wife were raised....
04-12-2016
02:48 PM - wantshelp mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Sexless and PIV or not?
...at happening. Young at Heart, how far apart were ...
03-13-2016
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03-02-2016
05:24 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I never go through with the battle plan
Excellent point Young at Heart. But I don't think U...
02-20-2016
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01-15-2016
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01-08-2016
04:11 PM - Lila mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: I'm falling out of love - with the love of my life.
... Calling UMP and Young at Heart. They may have some...
12-22-2015
09:23 PM - JukeboxHero mentioned Young at Heart in post Sex-starved Youtube
...ickin' Link. No, Young at Heart, It's not the TED Ta...
12-09-2015
11:29 AM - Lila mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Help me...marriage sex life sucks!
...exual dysfunction. Young at Heart and his wife have ha...
10-22-2015
01:03 PM - ptomczyk11 mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Wife wants only affection and has zero desire for sex!
...================ Young at Heart Yes, what Michele W...
07-23-2015
03:42 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: Open Relationship: I want a hall pass.
...u read any posts by Young at Heart? The dude was in you...
07-21-2015
06:07 PM - Anon Pink mentioned Young at Heart in post Re: My husband has a low sex drive but watches a lot of porn.
Young at Heart, I've read your stor...
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03-24-2017
03:29 AM - terrylee quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Having no sex with my wife for 10 months now, please help
...s.) Thanks to "Young at Heart", I just talked to h...
03-23-2017
01:14 PM - Young at Heart quoted terrylee in post Re: Having no sex with my wife for 10 months now, please help
In a week, I think we spend m...
12:46 PM - Young at Heart quoted Caireen in post Re: I made a mistake
My husband and I have been m...
11:49 AM - Young at Heart quoted james5588 in post Re: wife reveals truth after 17 years....
yesterday, my wife revealed to...
03-22-2017
05:57 PM - GusPolinski quoted Young at Heart in post Re: When the blinders come off but you are still n love
If anyone is going to tell the kids...
05:53 PM - Young at Heart quoted GusPolinski in post Re: When the blinders come off but you are still n love
If he's threatening to tell the ...
03:28 PM - bremik quoted Young at Heart in post Re: Has anyone had sex be the glue that held a poor relationship together
I would say that no sex, can ultima...
11:59 AM - Young at Heart quoted uhtred in post Re: Have you ever been in appropriately propositioned
By "improperly", I mean the...
11:47 AM - Young at Heart quoted bremik in post Re: Has anyone had sex be the glue that held a poor relationship together
It might be an odd question...
03-21-2017
07:47 PM - Young at Heart quoted macey8 in post Re: Husband only shows intimacy when he wants sex
A few months ago, I started...
07:25 PM - Young at Heart quoted mjk101 in post Re: Sex! Just another thing on the todo list
Thanks you for that comment...
07:04 PM - Young at Heart quoted farsidejunky in post Re: Thoughts on time limits
One of the more common yet hurtfu...
06:50 PM - Young at Heart quoted Ursula in post Re: Thoughts on time limits
Does anyone have any though...
04:33 PM - SuperConfusedHusband quoted Young at Heart in post Re: OPEN confession of a confused man. (please dont judge)
Get some professional help and good...
01:40 PM - Young at Heart quoted SuperConfusedHusband in post Re: OPEN confession of a confused man. (please dont judge)
Yeah this is tough one. Still debating if...
01:36 PM - mjk101 quoted Young at Heart in post Sex! Just another thing on the todo list
A couple of thoughts. First you ar...
01:10 PM - Young at Heart quoted mjk101 in post Re: Sex! Just another thing on the todo list
.....I am not complaining a...
03-20-2017
09:05 PM - SuperConfusedHusband quoted Young at Heart in post Re: OPEN confession of a confused man. (please dont judge)
I think I can understand what you a...
07:06 PM - Young at Heart quoted Diana7 in post Re: OPEN confession of a confused man. (please dont judge)
If she were to find out on ...
05:52 PM - Diana7 quoted Young at Heart in post Re: OPEN confession of a confused man. (please dont judge)
A final piece of advice. Your ult...
 
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