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Old 04-05-2008, 01:06 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default any men here have a vasectomy?

I got one in December, Why? well we have three kids and we are in our late 30's, been married 11 years (together 18), we discussed about having another child then decided we were done with children, that we were ready to live with what we have and just continue to grow as a family of five.

So the big decision came to what to do? I decided it was in our best interest that I get a vasectomy. It was a simple 15 minute operation and basically there was little change in my sexual behavior. Your body just absorbs the sperm.

Now my sex drive is higher then most men, (I think) Yes it is the standard sex constantly as they say, but as you know after 18 years with the same person....well my wife can't walk past me without me trying something....how often is it this way? when I don't grab her in some sort of way, or try to kiss her somewhere on her body, she asks me what is wrong. Yes it is that often.

But now that I had my vasectomy I feel my libido is starting to slip. I imagine it is just mentally and I have zero problem getting aroused on the slightest tease from my wife.

Just wondering if any other men here had one and felt a dip in their sexual desires?

On a side not if you are debating on doing this procedure I highly recommend it.....it's easy and barely any pain, after 2 weeks I was fine.
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Old 04-05-2008, 06:43 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Default Re: any men here have a vasectomy?

Had mine done 10 years ago and didn’t notice any change in libido either way. I’d suspect your slip, if there is one, is related to a reduction in testosterone which usually starts somewhere in our thirties. I agree for any of you out there debating to have it done, if it goes well it’s not a big deal. Two weeks recovery seems long. The minor discomfort was gone in just a couple of days for me.
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Old 04-06-2008, 06:06 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Default Re: any men here have a vasectomy?

GA, I haven't been cut yet and was planning on doing it this past winter, but couldn't do it. We have two kids, in our late 30's. I've noticed a drop in my libido over the last 3yrs or so, but it could also be that I'm used to getting it once a week at most.

Age might have something to do with it, GA. I don't know.
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Old 04-07-2008, 10:38 PM   #4 (permalink)
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going on 20 years since I had mine done. You do have a drop in sexual urges as you get older but if you are open enough to see this then you can do things to spice things up. Bad thing about being with some one so long is you get into a rut and that can kill a sex drive more then anything else.
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Old 04-25-2008, 07:11 AM   #5 (permalink)
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I had mine about 9+ years ago. I never felt a dip in libido (after the initial recovery) and still don't. I don't think a vasectomy affects libido at all. Other physical factors as we age do though.
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Old 04-25-2008, 07:47 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Got mine last year. Best thing I ever did. Had it done on Friday and went to work Monday.
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