my husbands on drugs

wife_3_kids · 10-28-2007, 08:16 PM

i am a mom of three and me and my husband have a 15 month old son and he rather go out and get high then call and see how he is doing

draconis · 10-28-2007, 08:18 PM

What drug(s) is he on?

draconis

wife_3_kids · 10-28-2007, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by draconis

What drug(s) is he on?

draconis

i dont know all the drugs he is on i know weed for sure

draconis · 10-28-2007, 08:25 PM

Weed is a moderate drug, compared to others. Have you tried to communicate your concerns to him? Have you told him that the drugs are hurting his and your family?

draconis

wife_3_kids · 10-28-2007, 09:19 PM

yes i did and he dont care at all he keeps making promise he will stop but hasnt

draconis · 10-28-2007, 09:34 PM

Why are you with him? (this is not to be mean just to help understand where the questions need to go.)

draconis

Doubt&Wonder · 10-29-2007, 12:52 AM

I personally do NOT feel is so important as to what drugs he is on - but rather WHY he is taking them - what inner pain or memory is he trying to numb...... one must first solve the emotional issue behind the act before they can stop.

Good Luck....... ((( hugs )))

draconis · 10-29-2007, 09:14 AM

I have helped friends through 12 step programs. The drugs and or alcohol they are abusing is important in so far as treatment. An alcoholic can have any internal problem solved but will continue to drink. What he is on needs to be addresses to because some things are easier to break from then others. You are right for the problem to be solved he'll have to deal with what got him there in the first place.

draconis

sweetpea · 10-29-2007, 01:44 PM

Wife of 3 kids,

Can you share a little more information about your husband and his history with drugs/alcohol? Did he start abusing drugs recently, or has this been going on since you have known him? Was he using like his when you met him or has been getting progressively worse? Has he ever tried to stop? Has he had consequences for his behavior yet? Like has he missed work because he was to hung over to or has he missed family functions because of the drugs. I am sorry that I am asking so many question but I am trying to figure out how to help you and I need little more information.

Jen

Unhappy in LA · 02-14-2008, 04:52 PM

From personally experience I know that a lot of substance abuse can come from the desire to cover up problems in a relationship. It is entirely possible that the real problem is something in your relationship, that once remedied will result in a decreased desire to use. I know for me that my relationship drove me to use many times.. Simply because I was not getting anything from my wife.

sarahdale24 · 02-15-2008, 02:14 PM

Drugs can cause alot of problems in a relationship. My concern is, is he around the kids and are they in the home? If so, then I would get out of that ASAP or YOU could get into trouble if CPS actually did their job and something was investigated. I don't know your whole situation, can you ellaborate?

mollyL · 02-16-2008, 11:00 PM

Are the other children both of yours, or yours with another man? We need a clearer vision of how long you have been together; how long have you been married?

Green-Moo · 02-17-2008, 01:43 AM

Perhaps he finds being at home boring / scary / any number of other things and would rather be elsewhere. That's not a criticism of you, more an indication of an immature man. The drugs themselves may not be the problem, just something that he does when he's with his mates / not with you. Has he always done drugs, or has it increased since the child has arrived?

Green-Moo