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Old 08-13-2013, 05:10 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Women are God’s masterpiece. Men do and will always love looking at women. It is just an ugly truth but if it bothers you then you should tell him that it bothers you.
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A couple of point that you won't like....

A. Truth be told men like women and at a base level we view them as sexual. Its the way we are wired.
B. Most men can look at and enjoy women we find attractive and not have it effect our love and affection for thee woman in our life.

Is life good otherwise? If "yes", then let it go and love your man.
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Old 08-13-2013, 05:50 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I clearly communicate with my W that I would rather have her anytime and would never touch the keyboard if we got it on 2-3x a week. Doesn't seem to make any difference though.
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Old 08-13-2013, 06:34 PM   #19 (permalink)
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I too have a few " provocative " pictures of fitness models , my niece who is a fashion model , and even my wife ,[ lol, she bought me this laptop so most of the pics on it are of her!] on my laptop as screen savers.

My wife sees them and she has no problems.

These are NOT nude shots, but women in skimpy apparel or swimsuits.

But if a man's wife has problems with such pics, then he should consider her feelings.
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Old 08-13-2013, 06:46 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I agree with Justonelife that it is kind of a slap in the face. Let me make this a little clearer..........these are not pictures of skimpy dressed woman or women in a bathing suit, Caribbean Man. These women are totally nude with their legs spread. Now.....I love to look at nice looking men too....but this is porn to me.
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Old 08-13-2013, 06:50 PM   #21 (permalink)
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Dear Married but Happy........yes we are both 60ish....but in good shape and not dead yet. If he were using these pics to get his engine going before he made love to me I'd say....why am I not enough? He's not.
Ok. Here's what you do ok? Download pictures of naked men Your choice. As many as you want, and just for the hell of it, look at them and let him see that your looking at them. If he asks why your looking at naked men, your reply should be, "why are you looking at pictures of naked women"? See? Clear as milk. Chances are if you say to him that you'll delete yours if he deletes his, then your even. If not then when you tired of those pictures, delete them and find some fresh stuff.

Honestly, I don't think he's cheating and you wouldn't be either but what's good for the goose..........ya know? From one senior to another and I'm a guy.
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Old 08-13-2013, 06:58 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Senior_Citizen - I just read some of your other threads. This bothers you so much because you are insecure and feeling unloved in your relationship. That changes things, IMO. Your BF was flirting with a 25yo woman and never initiates affection or sex? So it makes sense that finding pictures of naked young women would bother you, you are already insecure enough.

It wouldn't bother me in my relationship because I feel very loved and secure. If I didn't, yeah, it would probably bother me too.

You need to address the larger issues in your relationship. This has nothing to do with him looking at a few naked women.
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Old 08-13-2013, 07:23 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Your old man is checking out porn and rubbing one out.
Masturbation can be a great stress reliever. But for me , I just like to do it. Especially if I have a visual aid...it helps me get the job done quicker so I can get back to *important* things like my spouse, family, work and friends.

Unless your old man has an addiction then it a bad thing..cuz then he is more focused on this crap rather then making sure his old lady is getting her needs met.

So my questions...how are things in the marriage? Is this bull crap porn getting in the way of his performance?

If your man is dropping the ball then speak up, but if its all good then let him have his time at the "museum"
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Old 08-14-2013, 06:30 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Caribbean Man...If you are sincere in most of your answers here then you are the closet thing to the perfect man that I have ever encountered...
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I didn't see your response yesterday.
Thanks for your kind words.
Perfection is in the eyes of the beholder , I guess?

But seriously , I just try to be sincere, fair minded and honest.
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Old 08-14-2013, 06:53 AM   #25 (permalink)
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I haven't read your other posts but it's true if you aren't feeling loved and secure porn is a total threat. If you're the center of his universe these things won't bother you.
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It's not about you. My 47 year old husband is on T shots and it had nothing to do with me not being enough. His T level was at close to dead.

He still likes looking at pictures of naked women...
Same here, but his T levels are not dead yet...but by no means is my husband a high test guy....he's been looking, saving, hard drive filling naked pictures of beautiful women/Playboy bunnies since he got his hands on the internet.. .and we have a very fulfilling marriage...and sex life... he has always saved every release for me...

He just likes a little visual variety once in a while ...he's a guy...I'd rather us be open about it -over his hiding it... Back in the day....I used to get a bit bent out of shape ...it's the only thing he struggled to put down- at my wishes..but he treated me so good, even then it was not that big of a deal....

I figure...the day he looses this interest, is the day I'll be sending him to the Doc for Testosterone treatment.
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Old 08-14-2013, 08:35 AM   #27 (permalink)
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I wouldn't be ok with this and I feel loved in my relationship. I think that looking at other women naked is a sure fire way to ruin a sex life. Chances are the OP is not going to want to have sex with her husband or get naked for him for fear he's comparing her to a 25 yr old ( which lets face it he's doing because why the f**k would he be looking?). Way to go husband you just ruined your sex life! Thumbs up.

I am suspecting that any man who doesn't do this is not responding in this thread. OP i think this is much rarer than is being portrayed here. I would encourage you to talk to your husband especially with the other issues. It sounds like he has invited other naked women into his mind and now his mind is focused on that. Men say it doesn't affect feelings about there wives but it 100% does. If I was looking at nude pics of men with giant erections you can bet I'm comparing them to my husband and suddenly I'm feeling less aroused by him. It's just a natural progression.
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Old 08-14-2013, 08:41 AM   #28 (permalink)
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Women are God’s masterpiece. Men do and will always love looking at women. It is just an ugly truth but if it bothers you then you should tell him that it bothers you.
Lets be clear though, you aren't talking about "women" you are talking about airbrushed images of perfection. Even artful masterpieces aren't perfect or held up to the scrutiny women are.
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I too have a few " provocative " pictures of fitness models , my niece who is a fashion model , and even my wife ,[ lol, she bought me this laptop so most of the pics on it are of her!] on my laptop as screen savers.

My wife sees them and she has no problems.

These are NOT nude shots, but women in skimpy apparel or swimsuits.

But if a man's wife has problems with such pics, then he should consider her feelings.
Sorry, this is one thing that weirds me out. Your niece? That's.... creepy... IMO. I don't care if my niece were a fashion model or some other type of celebrity. If my husband had provocative pictures of her on his computer, that would not be ok with me. That's family, man. Especially if it's flesh and blood. And that's nude OR skimpy clothing. If my husband had a "collection" of provocative pictures which included our niece? Yuck. That would be like my BIL having pictures of my daughter in such a "collection"... I don't see how anyone could gloss over that... that's just... weird.
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Lets be clear though, you aren't talking about "women" you are talking about airbrushed images of perfection. Even artful masterpieces aren't perfect or held up to the scrutiny women are.
Not all of us like the airbrush. There are a lot of us who aren't into the magazine cover. I like a woman to be smaller than me yes, but I don't like large breasts (B-cups are ideal to me) and I certainly don't like photo shopped "perfection" or wearing excessive makeup.

Women I like look great even when sweaty and tired from a good run when all the "fake" and "beauty techniques" are out the window.

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