Re: Bisexual husband? a mans opinion please
Amanda, compared to the European countries, ours is still very conservative and narrow minded with respect to the wide differences in sexuality that are exhibited by human beings. Until two decades ago, we would not even recognize the existence of transexual people and many people still hold onto the mistaken belief that sexual preference is entirely learned, not inherited.
While many people believe there are only two polar extremes -- gay and straight -- the reality is that most people are born with preferences somewhere along a continuum between those two extremes. That is why studies have found that nearly half of the males have had a homosexual experience before leaving high school.
By the time they reach their mid-twenties, however, those guys' preferences become narrowed greatly, with the vast majority focused only on women. Indeed, if some of my friends are any guide, they may be so focused that they want an early 20's brunette woman with long legs in four-inch heels.
But, yes, bisexuals constitute a substantial portion of society. They are not treated very well by the straights and gays because both of those groups tend to regard them as gays. Indeed, many -- if not most -- gay men take offense from a man's claim of being bisexual because they think he is trying "to pass" as being half normal.
Consequently, my advice is to consider your H to be bisexual to some degree unless you find evidence to the contrary. By "to some degree," I do not mean a 50/50 split. It may be 25/75 or 90/10. My point, then, is that it is somewhere on a continuum -- not at the polar extremes.
Moreover, his being bisexual does not mean he is so stupid as to try to have casual sex with a co-worker. Unless he is very immature or has a personality disorder, it is unlikely he wants to have casual sex with a married co-worker with whom he will be working for years to come.
Finally, I agree that couples counseling would be invaluable if you two intend to try to save your marriage. I wish you two the best. Take care.