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Old 05-19-2010, 08:25 AM   #46 (permalink)
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Lie detecter test's dont actualy work,you would all know this if you noticed that both in the states,uk & all other countrys there not ammisable in a court of law.
Also if anyone watches the UK program QI,they tell you a number of way's as to how to fool these things.
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Old 05-19-2010, 11:32 AM   #47 (permalink)
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well turnera I believe that holding back on somethings I've done can save my marriage, but reveiling everything may not. I want to move forward and never want to be the way I was before I want to keep my wife and kids together. So I guess if thats what it takes then I have to do that I guess.
Reguardless of what went on in the marriage you should have never take the path you took.
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Old 05-19-2010, 11:33 AM   #48 (permalink)
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I just realized I asked a liar where to get a lie detector test...how funny is that??

regarding your lies and your request for advise to get out of your lies....I think you SUCK at marriage and need to take a hard look at your self and ask why and how you can be so deceitful. Tell her the truth she already doesn't believe you.
Shazzam!!!

That was good!!!!
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Old 10-22-2010, 05:08 AM   #49 (permalink)
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If I thought for one second my husband was being unfaithful...I would snoop until I found out what was happening...and then make my choices. You ask so much of us...and all we expect is that you uphold your vows. When you don't that gives us permission to find out WFT is going on.
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Old 10-22-2010, 10:51 AM   #50 (permalink)
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While the argument about lie detectors goes on I think the answer is here. Come clean with her, tell her the truth, then a lie detector will not be needed.

As is your marriage will not last so the only way to give it that possibility is to come clean, be honest, accept responsibility and take the crap for what you did.

now back top regularly scheduled programming.... let me get my popcorn so I can watch the rest of the lie detector show (dang this is not going to be good for my diet )
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Old 11-01-2010, 12:59 PM   #51 (permalink)
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Just fess up to EVERYTHING before the test. Then take the test. She needs to deal with the whole truth before she can get over it. Otherwise things will never get better. Hopefully you have resolved to stop cheating though or else it's all in vain.
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Old 09-11-2014, 04:32 AM   #52 (permalink)
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My wife had an affair, which I basically caught her in the act of. She insisted that I "pay her back" and have my own, and to not tell her about it. I did try on several occasions to have an affair, but never got further than striking up a platonic friendship with two different women. It took all I had to get over her infidelity, the last thing I wanted to do was pay her back. Both of these friendships, were only short-lived, and nothing, not even a kiss nor a hand hold came from them. That was several years ago, and as much as it hurt, I managed to swallow the pain, and to not bring it up, and to try and treat her as best I could. At first, I despised her, but after, I began to think it was my fault for not doing something I should've been doing, so I made myself a model husband. I never bring it up, ever. Lately, she has been accusing me, without any reason, whatsoever, of having an affair, to pay her back, and she wants me to take a lie detector test to prove my fidelity. This is the last straw, as far as I'm concerned. I loved my wife, and tried my best, but her insecurities, in my opinion, are what drove her to an affair in the first place and they have now re-surfaced in spades. She has no basis for this request, other than a guilty conscience, as far as I can see. I saw a counselor, and together we worked through my feelings, and they are that I leave the marriage with this woman, as she has cheated on me, and continues to suspect me of cheating on her, going so far now, as to have withheld sex for the last two years as a result. I live in a fault divorce state, and the only question is to whether or not my anger is such that I stick her with an easily provable fault divorce or not. We have no children, and she has not worked throughout our ten year marriage. She has contributed nothing, she never cooks, cleans, nor does anything around the house. I have hired a maid, and do my own laundry and cooking. My resentment of her, has reached a fevered pitch, and I'm afraid she is going to be totally blindsided, by what several lawyers have told me is a slam dunk case. So, men aren't always the jerks that many appear to make them out to be on this board.
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Old 09-11-2014, 05:54 AM   #53 (permalink)
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Dude,

The original post was over 4 years ago. He's long gone from the marriage, I'd guess.

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Old 09-11-2014, 04:14 PM   #54 (permalink)
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as everyone else has told you, you can not hold ANYTHING back. Write it all down in a time line. List all the gory details. If she asks for more clarification, give it.

The lie detector was a smart move on her part. Without it you, obviously, were never going to come clean.

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Old 09-11-2014, 05:01 PM   #55 (permalink)
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I'm surprised this guy only got ripped for 3 1/2 pages.

I cheated on my wife, I told her everything, and now she wants me to take a lie detector test, but I don't want to do that, because I actually haven't told her everything and it will ruin my marriage.

LOL!!!

Nice to see turnera was still here way back in 2010. Fresh out of college, I assume.
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I'm surprised this guy only got ripped for 3 1/2 pages.

I cheated on my wife, I told her everything, and now she wants me to take a lie detector test, but I don't want to do that, because I actually haven't told her everything and it will ruin my marriage.

LOL!!!

Nice to see turnera was still here way back in 2010. Fresh out of college, I assume.
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Old 09-11-2014, 05:08 PM   #57 (permalink)
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My wife had an affair, which I basically caught her in the act of. She insisted that I "pay her back" and have my own, and to not tell her about it. I did try on several occasions to have an affair, but never got further than striking up a platonic friendship with two different women. It took all I had to get over her infidelity, the last thing I wanted to do was pay her back. Both of these friendships, were only short-lived, and nothing, not even a kiss nor a hand hold came from them. That was several years ago, and as much as it hurt, I managed to swallow the pain, and to not bring it up, and to try and treat her as best I could. At first, I despised her, but after, I began to think it was my fault for not doing something I should've been doing, so I made myself a model husband. I never bring it up, ever. Lately, she has been accusing me, without any reason, whatsoever, of having an affair, to pay her back, and she wants me to take a lie detector test to prove my fidelity. This is the last straw, as far as I'm concerned. I loved my wife, and tried my best, but her insecurities, in my opinion, are what drove her to an affair in the first place and they have now re-surfaced in spades. She has no basis for this request, other than a guilty conscience, as far as I can see. I saw a counselor, and together we worked through my feelings, and they are that I leave the marriage with this woman, as she has cheated on me, and continues to suspect me of cheating on her, going so far now, as to have withheld sex for the last two years as a result. I live in a fault divorce state, and the only question is to whether or not my anger is such that I stick her with an easily provable fault divorce or not. We have no children, and she has not worked throughout our ten year marriage. She has contributed nothing, she never cooks, cleans, nor does anything around the house. I have hired a maid, and do my own laundry and cooking. My resentment of her, has reached a fevered pitch, and I'm afraid she is going to be totally blindsided, by what several lawyers have told me is a slam dunk case. So, men aren't always the jerks that many appear to make them out to be on this board.
Go start your own thread we'll be there.
I think divorce would be a good thing for you.
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