Re: Threatened with a Lie Detector Test
My wife had an affair, which I basically caught her in the act of. She insisted that I "pay her back" and have my own, and to not tell her about it. I did try on several occasions to have an affair, but never got further than striking up a platonic friendship with two different women. It took all I had to get over her infidelity, the last thing I wanted to do was pay her back. Both of these friendships, were only short-lived, and nothing, not even a kiss nor a hand hold came from them. That was several years ago, and as much as it hurt, I managed to swallow the pain, and to not bring it up, and to try and treat her as best I could. At first, I despised her, but after, I began to think it was my fault for not doing something I should've been doing, so I made myself a model husband. I never bring it up, ever. Lately, she has been accusing me, without any reason, whatsoever, of having an affair, to pay her back, and she wants me to take a lie detector test to prove my fidelity. This is the last straw, as far as I'm concerned. I loved my wife, and tried my best, but her insecurities, in my opinion, are what drove her to an affair in the first place and they have now re-surfaced in spades. She has no basis for this request, other than a guilty conscience, as far as I can see. I saw a counselor, and together we worked through my feelings, and they are that I leave the marriage with this woman, as she has cheated on me, and continues to suspect me of cheating on her, going so far now, as to have withheld sex for the last two years as a result. I live in a fault divorce state, and the only question is to whether or not my anger is such that I stick her with an easily provable fault divorce or not. We have no children, and she has not worked throughout our ten year marriage. She has contributed nothing, she never cooks, cleans, nor does anything around the house. I have hired a maid, and do my own laundry and cooking. My resentment of her, has reached a fevered pitch, and I'm afraid she is going to be totally blindsided, by what several lawyers have told me is a slam dunk case. So, men aren't always the jerks that many appear to make them out to be on this board.