Re: Does your wife ever initiate sex?
I'm divorced now (whew!), but looking back at our 15 years together - I can't recall her initiating even once - actually, that's not true - the first time we had sex she initiated. But after that...I remember sort of being "allowed" sex once a week. I'd have to ask for it - "can we maybe have a "date" tonight"? And if she wasn't "too tired" or "just not into it", I'd maybe get my morsel. I resented the **** out of that. It's really, really depressing to me to think about that - it seems so common - that a guy generally has to be the one to ask for it, then is maybe given it as some sort of gift or reward. YUCK!! I've been single for over 4 years now (not counting the several girlfriends I had post split). I have a lover, or fwb, and she comes to me on the weekend for sex. She's super high drive and we have awesome sex.
You always hear women say they love sex just as much as men - but they don't seem (from what I experienced with my ex and from what I hear from other guys) to initiate very often.
Is it because women know they can pretty much get it whenever, and they enjoy making the man work for it?
Sex is awesome. Life's short - we should be boinking all the damn time.