turnera

Find out WHY. Talk to her about it.

hopelessly_devoted

hmmm... now that you mention it my husband has broughten up the fact that i never initiate a couple times to me. but i just love when he initiates it. i like being dominated! i didnt think it really could bother him but now that im seeing all these responses.... i guess ill have to start!

CLucas976

I'm a horny little girl when I'm not suffering from some sort of female related problem or pain and am not stressed or miserable.

I have no problem jumping on him when the mood strikes...

Crypsys

Have you told him that?

I know at times I do sometimes wish mine would initiate. But, for her being dominated is very important, so I've learned to accept that for her to really enjoy it, I do have to take control.

cb45

if she'll honestly do this..................



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then anythings possible!

Blue Moon

Wife didn't for the longest. In actuality, the sex had tapered off for a good period of time. But I wised up and did what I needed to do to create sexual tension, give her space and changed my attitude/approach. It worked wonders.

She initiates all the time now. We were on vacation last week and she was all over me and still has been since we got back home. At one point on the vacation we got back to the room and she simply said "Condom yourself..." lol. No complaints here!

Everybody's different, but if you get your wife into sex enough she'll initiate sometimes, Still, don't underestimate the need for you to be the man and take control.

MarriedWifeInLove

I intiate all the time and get rejected all the time.

Go figure.

SadSamIAm

So you can quit your performances for equipment repair, but you can't stop them for your wife. I would be pissed if I was your wife. She should come first.

tinyturt

Hi all. First post here.

My wife never initates. Recently though that changed when we were both home alone during the day. I asked her to put on some lingerie and then come out grab me by the hand and take me to our room and attack me. She did and it was great for the both of us. Me more than her but I know she enjoyed herself too. I asked her to remove my clothes and she did and that really turned me on. We ended up making passionate love which is somewhat unusal since she's lost most of her desire due to menopause.

Tinyturt...

funfun

I'm sorry for your situation. I am usually the one getting rejected, but that said my BF is willing to give me about 3 times a week. Being rejected sucks. It really hurts emotionally and has long lasting effects. My thoughts for you would be to try to prevent having those feelings by manipulating the situation a bit. I would try to cuddle her and kiss her neck in bed at night. If she swats you away tell her you would just like to hold her and that you're not trying to make more happen. and do that. dont' try to do more with her. restore the intimacy without expecting more. Keep doing this in bed to try to restore her feeling like you're not just gonna try to get in her pants. Maybe over time she'll be the one to get a little aroused and want it. I think you have to make her want it. You can also remind her that you would like to please HER. Maybe if it stops becoming so much about your needs and your feelings of rejection and YOU not getting what YOU want and more about HER getting something that could make her feel so good, she'll come around. You should try reminding her how much you like to l**k her p**** and how much you want to please her and how much she used to like c**ing on your tongue,etc and see if those memories spark a new interest in her. I would say focus less you you and you may just get what you're looking for as a by-product. Don't get pissed off when she rejects you cause that's a cycle that's not good for anyone. Take it slow and remind her of good times in bed. Maybe also take matters into your own hands and let her know that you are. This way she might stop seeing you as something pathetic and start seeing you as someone who gets what they want. or she may feel a little jealous. i know i always do when i'm not getting enough action and i know he's been masturbating, i feel like --- hey get over here and give it to me. that's a recipe for initiating for me. and i usually tell him if he can't take care of me he's not allowed to go off and take care of himself. so get over here and take the punishment i see fit. ;-)

but i have a higher sex drive than he does. that said we're pretty well matched. he'd be happy at twice a week and a bj. i'd be happy at 4 times a week. but that's not a bad match really! and it's always hot.

good luck!!!

L.M.COYL

My wife mentions it about 3 times a year.

It sucks.

I always initiate it.

copperfiend

Maybe after a few drinks. Usually not though.

JayFromSoCal

Hello there. those are the golden mysteries of a simple man like myself. I just need a little attention maybe 20 min max per day and "some sex" 1-2x per week is enough to keep me sain and at ease! i wish my wife knew this...

cloud

nope........I have to do all the running

mattphx

I have had an issue with my wife not initiating sex since day one. Over the 5yrs we have been marrried it has become a little better. I have tried alot of things, distance, pressure, etc etc. Putting pressure on her had the worst outcome of them all, it just pushed her further away and made her feel uncomfortable. We are nowhere where we need to be and I know I have issues in our relationship that need working on as well. I believe if my wife really really understood the power of her sexual actions I could concour the world.