11-10-2010, 06:02 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
| | Re: Does your wife ever initiate sex?
I'm sorry for your situation. I am usually the one getting rejected, but that said my BF is willing to give me about 3 times a week. Being rejected sucks. It really hurts emotionally and has long lasting effects. My thoughts for you would be to try to prevent having those feelings by manipulating the situation a bit. I would try to cuddle her and kiss her neck in bed at night. If she swats you away tell her you would just like to hold her and that you're not trying to make more happen. and do that. dont' try to do more with her. restore the intimacy without expecting more. Keep doing this in bed to try to restore her feeling like you're not just gonna try to get in her pants. Maybe over time she'll be the one to get a little aroused and want it. I think you have to make her want it. You can also remind her that you would like to please HER. Maybe if it stops becoming so much about your needs and your feelings of rejection and YOU not getting what YOU want and more about HER getting something that could make her feel so good, she'll come around. You should try reminding her how much you like to l**k her p**** and how much you want to please her and how much she used to like c**ing on your tongue,etc and see if those memories spark a new interest in her. I would say focus less you you and you may just get what you're looking for as a by-product. Don't get pissed off when she rejects you cause that's a cycle that's not good for anyone. Take it slow and remind her of good times in bed. Maybe also take matters into your own hands and let her know that you are. This way she might stop seeing you as something pathetic and start seeing you as someone who gets what they want. or she may feel a little jealous. i know i always do when i'm not getting enough action and i know he's been masturbating, i feel like --- hey get over here and give it to me. that's a recipe for initiating for me. and i usually tell him if he can't take care of me he's not allowed to go off and take care of himself. so get over here and take the punishment i see fit. ;-)
but i have a higher sex drive than he does. that said we're pretty well matched. he'd be happy at twice a week and a bj. i'd be happy at 4 times a week. but that's not a bad match really! and it's always hot.