Re: Does your wife ever initiate sex?
This thread is one example of conflicting expectations men might have for women and vice versa...I feel like a lot of men out there want to be the one "in charge" in the relationship, the one making the decisions, the head of the family. They want their wives to respect them, find them attractive, and enjoy/show interest in sex with them. Unfortunately, wanting/wishing/hoping that the wife will initiate sex goes against this "dominant" mentality that many men have. Women often find confidence attractive, and asking your wife to initiate sex does not appear confident in most cases; it makes you look insecure. I get that it's important to men and women to feel desired, but unfortunately you have to be careful how you "ask" because it could appear as a sign of weakness. I also think it's in our nature for the man to be the pursuer/initiator and the woman to be the one who wants to be romanced.
I understand that most of the male posters here are just wishing that their wives would show some (or any!) interest in sex and initiate occasionally. I think this is a totally reasonable request, but I just wanted to remind people that women enjoy being pursued most of the time. I don't know that it should be a 50/50 thing, but it could be different for other relationships. Personally I enjoy initiating maybe once per week, the other times my SO does...I like it when he initiates because it makes me feel wanted and desired, and it makes me feel like he's the dominant one. I respect him more and find him more attractive.