Most of the time I would rather go down stairs and find some internet porn than to try and get the wife going.
That's not a good habit, tatted. As a former and recovering porn user, I can't say I haven't done that.
But now realize I focused more of my energy on viewing porn when I could have been investing more time with her.
I honestly don't think my husband can handle me being sexually agressive. It seems to really bother him and he turns into an uptight old man that avoids the whole situation. He's 33 so I don't get it.
Am sorry to hear that. Will tell you this:
I wouldn't have responded like your hubby.
I for one would love it if my wife initiated, even just once in a while.
She has "helped" the mood several times (not as much as I'd like though). I've come to bed from the bathroom in the hotel and found her absolutely naked....
Yes, she let me have my way with her...
She was all over me on the couch once.
At times, during cuddling, she won't deflect me if I start groping her "too early..." That's usually a good sign.