ClipClop

While I can't know what plenty means, I would be very surprised if a passing thought hasn't crossed through most ppls minds by the time they are 40ish. To me, lust is a form of mental cheating. It all starts somewhere. Faithful people guard themselves by not dwelling on those thoughts. But that doesn't mean they haven't had them. Women perhaps don't lust the same way as men. We get interested more emotionally. And then wonder about the person. It doesn't have to be sexual. But it is the same kind of thinking that can lead to unfaithfulness. I just think men do it mote often.
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ncooke

Uh, what? Cheating in my mind?

omega

That's a pile of cr@p. Speaking for myself, I absolutely have never cheated, even "in my mind." Please keep the generalizations about others on the site to yourself!

Yeah, he's a great dad and husband, he cheated on his wife and not only that, it took her discovering it and calling him on it to get him to stop.

To the OP, you screwed up. Terribly. Own what you did, approach your wife for forgiveness but don't expect it. She doesn't "have to" forgive you. It's very difficult to rebuild trust after infidelity. Maybe not impossible, but getting back to pre-cheating trust is a massive achievement for those who manage it. Most don't. You may need to cut your losses (wife, daughter) and go out on your own and do whatever it is (fun) that you feel you have not done. If you got married too early, that's your mistake, and you need to take responsibility for it.

OOE

Cosmo x started this thread in June of last year and hasn't posted again since.

I'm sure he's either resolved his issues or has moved on by now.