So I have noticed, especially lately, these types of music I am listening to and what I grew up on, what is constructive and what is destructive for being the good man in the relationship.
So being on the "high side" in years of my 30's I guess this will betray my age, but here are some of my thoughts.
Pop music and Rap music for the most part has much influence, some to most dominant man but overemphasize on materialism and putting down women. WIth that said, my wife has played for me some of the rap music she listens to on the radio, and has often said with that look in her eyes that some song (usually some over the top lyric) reminds her of me.
Christina Aguilera - yes.
Over the last few years I think Christian Aguilera message is good. "Ain't no other man" I wish I could put as the background to my profile page!
"You are there when I'm a mess
Talk me down from every ledge
Give me strength, boy you're the best
You're the only one who's ever passed every test
Ain't no other man can stand up next to you
Ain't no other man on the planet does what you do
You're the kinda guy a girl finds in a blue moon
You got soul, you got class, you got style with your bad ass"
Lady Gaga - yes.
I am delighted to see my teenage daughter to listen to Lady GaGa now instead of Miley Cyrus. I often stare at my wife in such a way if "Bad Romance" comes on, and LadyGAGA videos are nothing short of genius in some of the imagery, especially if anyone is of a sort of BDSM and dominance perspective in sexuality, her honesty is beyond her age, and this coming from me as not the biggest fan of most pop music.
"I want your love, and I want your revenge
I want your love, I don't wanna be friends"
ROck music, for the most part, full of bad advice especially the ballads. Feelings sorry, sympathy, these things are very popular and destructive, even so much as these are the songs I grew up on as a teenager in the '80s.
Eric Clapton - no.
Genuis on guitar and one of my favorite performers, mostly horrible on love advice. "Bell Bottom Blues" is a good song for what not to do to be a happy man with a woman.
Kiss - yes.
Nothing for the passive man here, everything practically over the top for manning up. Even the ballads, "Beth", pretty much telling his woman to chill as he will be home when he get's home.
Boston - No.
No matter how excellent this power guitar work and pop rock, the love advice will put any relationship on the fast track to divorce. Case in point, the song "A Man I'll Never Be".
So just lighthearted observations.
HOw about it, what songs and artists are good for manning up and which are to listened to with caution?