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Old 10-20-2010, 08:06 AM   #436 (permalink)
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I know and have known examples of both genders to whom it is far more important that they have an audience for the sole purpose of hearing themselves, than it is to know their audience is listening.

I have a male buddy, and we always joke; "Ask Phil what time it is and he'll tell you how to build a watch."

We covered this a bit in another thread.
Oh yeah, it was your reply Deejo, in that thread I started a while back Being Critically HONEST or better to just dump/ignore friendship instead?

That was REALLY funny-how you handle your friend, I loved that! I know guys can be similar - but I still think fewer & genereally they would not be as offended if they realized we was deliberately trying to shut them up.

My brother in law is like this, intelligent to the hilt , especially with computers but dare ask him a question & you will be engrossed in what feels like a Computer Class for the next hour. Generally we just have to leave the room, even my kids refuse to ask for his help. I will not dare ask my Mother In Law about a Movie or a book -then I will have to hear the entire script. These things are very very annoying to me.

I gravitate to anyone, male or female, who is articulate, gives detail but throws out the totally irrelevant crap, knows how to ask questions and listen, and cares that who they are talking too is simply "interested". I know this is why I prefer my Guy friend over any of my women friends, it is just that simple.
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I learned that my wife can NOT make me happy, only I can. My wife is there kind of like a polish, to make that happiness just that more beautiful to experience. We are far from there, and may not get there, but I'm now willing to pursue my happiness, with or without her.
So wise!!! You have to be content with yourself. You cannot expect someone else to make you content. It'll never happen. I always tell people they need to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else. So happy you put this on here. You are responsible for your own happiness
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So wise!!! You have to be content with yourself. You cannot expect someone else to make you content. It'll never happen. I always tell people they need to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else. So happy you put this on here. You are responsible for your own happiness
Definitely an important lesson to learn. Frames everything differently. It's immensely empowering - or terrifying depending upon where you are in the journey and your circumstances.

Personal happiness or self-satisfaction is too big to put in the hands of someone else.
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