I think it's the woman's job to be "council" in the marriage and that's what BBW and MEM et al are saying.
They can certainly be a "brainy council" (a hot secretary with hair in a bun and glasses librarian look in fact
). . .but that's just it. They are just council.
They are the President's Cabinet and the end of the day, your husband is President Obama or President Bush, depending on your political views and they should make it known by saying, "Whatever you say, Mr. President." And any President worth his muster should listen to his council and probably do what they advise 95% of the time.
Hey, I'm not arguing with you at all. It may surprise you to know that I'm 29 years old and I've seen enough to know that this is what a man wants. Plain and simple. Unlike most women my age, I do not have a problem with it at all. I've never seen a company successfully run with two CEOs.
I consider myself a modern day submissive wife. I choose to be submissive to my husband because at the end of the day it's better for my marriage and it frees me of the burden of having to do most of the thinking. I have no desire to be in control, even though I know I'm more than capable.
One example I can think of that recently happened was our car broke down. My husband asked his "mechanic" friend to take a look at it and the cost he came back with was too much for us to pay at the time. Weeks passed and I found out that the "mechanic" my husband trusted wasn't really all that trustworthy, so I suggested he get a second opinion. My husband didn't think I was right, so I let it go. Months passed. We were working with one car to get us back and forth to work and the kids to school. It was hard, but my husband didn't think we had the money to get the car fixed. Finally, our other car went on us. We had to do something and since the 1st broken car was closer to a shop, we took that one in. Guess what? The car needed WAY less work than the "mechanic" had estimated. I was right and we could have afforded it all along. My husband was embarassed, but I told him that it was an honest mistake that could have happened to anyone.
I could have nagged him the entire 4 months I was out of a car, but I chose not too. I could have reminded him day after day that we needed the car fixed, but I knew he already knew that. I could have just had the car towed to the shop and payed for it myself, but I didn't. The key is I trusted him to figure it out on his own and I swallowed my own pride and convenience while he worked it out. That is being a submissive wife. It's ALLOWING your husband to make mistakes and not coming down on him when he does and it's not easy for most modern women to do. At the end of the day, I got to work every day and the kids got to school everyday and that's all that mattered.
I am an educated woman, but I'm smart enough to know that men and women are different. I'm smart enough to know that my strength as a woman lies in my ability to be feminine and obedient to my husband. It's a strength because it's my CHOICE. I don't have to be submissive, but I'm giving my husband a gift if I do and I'm taking the burden off of myself.