Nope. The key is to find your own happiness - then
the woman. Sounds like your ex was following the old script of "If I do this, I'll be happy."
If I find the right woman I'll be happy.
If I have the right job I'll be happy.
If I live in the right house I'll be happy.
If I have perfect kids I'll be happy.
If I make X amount of money, I'll be happy.
Yeah ... that doesn't work.
There is an old adage, I don't know it's origin, but I have always liked it:
"It's not about finding the right partner, it's about being the right partner."
I don't consider myself married, but here is my top 10:
1. Intimacy - including but not limited to monkey sex
3. Shared values, lifestyle
4. Open communication
8. Sense of wonder and adventure
9. Being able to cook would be a perk.
10. Booty that won't quit, to round things out so to speak.
If a man has everything here on the list, will he be truly happy?
Will he stay committed?
A lot of men want power in their life. They want to have successful career. They are not satisfied being simple men in life.
My ex had everything here on the list. He lost me, because he was discontent!( Do you know how sweet I had been to him? Every evening I would take my son and wait at the gate for him to come home, I still have tears in my eyes when I think of those days. He lost me because he didn't want to be a nobody in his life. He kept on building big dreams.)
My husband is so happy with me now because he is a simple man. He never wants any power. He just wants a happy organized life.
So is men's happiness being decided by women?????????