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Old 10-05-2010, 06:34 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Okay guys - I've seen the what women want, what to expect from your husband, what men need, what women need, etc.

I have a simple question...what is your Top 10 for what you want/expect/need from your wife - and I'm specifically talking married spouses here.

Your flat out Top 10 in order from most important (#1), to least important (#10).

Let the games begin...
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Old 10-05-2010, 06:59 PM   #2 (permalink)
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#1- Respect
#2- faithfulness
#3- sex (intimacy)
#4 - honesty
#5- peaceful home
#6- nurturing
#7- responsible partner
#8- something nice to look at
#9- something decent to eat
#10- ?
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Old 10-05-2010, 07:05 PM   #3 (permalink)
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#10 - more sex?
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Old 10-07-2010, 04:30 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Well apparently we only have 2 men on this forum that have a list!

I thought it was a good question - at least for me it was.

Thanks unbelievable and Idontknownow - appreciate your input.

I was surprised that SEX was not #1.
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Old 10-07-2010, 04:48 PM   #5 (permalink)
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FWIW - when I filled out the Marriagebuilders Emotional Needs Questionnaire, here's how I ranked my needs on their scale from top to bottom

Family Committment
Honesty and Openness (moves to the top when you get lied to enough)
Domestic Support
Admiration
Sexual Fulfillment
Affection
Recreational Companionship
Conversation
An attractive spouse
Financial support

This is highly influenced by my wife's EAs and what I feel has been missing from MY life over the last 1-2 years.

Three years ago I'm sure sex, conversation and recreational companionship would have ranked much higher, while honesty and domestic support wouldn't have seemed quite so important.
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#1- Respect
#2- faithfulness
#3- sex (intimacy)
#4 - honesty
#5- peaceful home
#6- nurturing
#7- responsible partner
#8- something nice to look at
#9- something decent to eat
#10- ?
If a man has everything here on the list, will he be truly happy?
Will he stay committed?

A lot of men want power in their life. They want to have successful career. They are not satisfied being simple men in life.

My ex had everything here on the list. He lost me, because he was discontent!( Do you know how sweet I had been to him? Every evening I would take my son and wait at the gate for him to come home, I still have tears in my eyes when I think of those days. He lost me because he didn't want to be a nobody in his life. He kept on building big dreams.)

My husband is so happy with me now because he is a simple man. He never wants any power. He just wants a happy organized life.

So is men's happiness being decided by women?????????

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Old 10-08-2010, 10:18 AM   #7 (permalink)
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10)A Tv remote control.
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10)A Tv remote control.
And a stereo lol. Apparently it's the first thing husbands take when they leave so must be important.

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So is men's happiness being decided by women?????????
Only if we let them have the remote to control our emotions.

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Only if we let them have the remote to control our emotions.

Bob
Bob, please help me understand this?

Is men's happiness directly affcted by women?
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Nope. The key is to find your own happiness - then the woman. Sounds like your ex was following the old script of "If I do this, I'll be happy."
If I find the right woman I'll be happy.
If I have the right job I'll be happy.
If I live in the right house I'll be happy.
If I have perfect kids I'll be happy.
If I make X amount of money, I'll be happy.

Yeah ... that doesn't work.

There is an old adage, I don't know it's origin, but I have always liked it:

"It's not about finding the right partner, it's about being the right partner."

I don't consider myself married, but here is my top 10:

1. Intimacy - including but not limited to monkey sex
2. Respect
3. Shared values, lifestyle
4. Open communication
5. Playfulness/joy
6. Responsibility/Accountability
7. Independence
8. Sense of wonder and adventure
9. Being able to cook would be a perk.
10. Booty that won't quit, to round things out so to speak.


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If a man has everything here on the list, will he be truly happy?
Will he stay committed?

A lot of men want power in their life. They want to have successful career. They are not satisfied being simple men in life.

My ex had everything here on the list. He lost me, because he was discontent!( Do you know how sweet I had been to him? Every evening I would take my son and wait at the gate for him to come home, I still have tears in my eyes when I think of those days. He lost me because he didn't want to be a nobody in his life. He kept on building big dreams.)

My husband is so happy with me now because he is a simple man. He never wants any power. He just wants a happy organized life.

So is men's happiness being decided by women?????????
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Nope. The key is to find your own happiness - then the woman. Sounds like your ex was following the old script of "If I do this, I'll be happy."
If I find the right woman I'll be happy.
If I have the right job I'll be happy.
If I live in the right house I'll be happy.
If I have perfect kids I'll be happy.
If I make X amount of money, I'll be happy.

Yeah ... that doesn't work.

There is an old adage, I don't know it's origin, but I have always liked it:

"It's not about finding the right partner, it's about being the right partner."

I don't consider myself married, but here is my top 10:

1. Intimacy - including but not limited to monkey sex
2. Respect
3. Shared values, lifestyle
4. Open communication
5. Playfulness/joy
6. Responsibility/Accountability
7. Independence
8. Sense of wonder and adventure
9. Being able to cook would be a perk.
10. Booty that won't quit, to round things out so to speak.
The description you have about my ex is just perfect. I just wanted a normal family life, he wanted to be a big boss. He wanted to be somebody important. He kept on telling me how many factories he wanted to have in the future while he had none. Once he had a very good job, we bought a place near the company he worked. Everything was fine, he was not happy. he wanted this, he wanted that, he ended up with nothing.............................

My husband never gives me the impression that he is not happy with our life. Everybody knows what kind of woman I am. My husband is just so content with his life that he doesn't put me into a worrying mood. I tend to worry if my man is not happy.

But the key thing here is that my husband is a happy man!!! He is happy, he makes me happy, it is easy for me to be a good wife!



I am not bragging, you can find all the qualities you want from me. My husband really cherishes me!!!!!

I work(good money), I cook(good food), I clean up( our apartment is just sweet), I fxxk( great in bed), I look sexy and delicious.

But one man lost all of these.

Another man gets to have all of these.

Whose fault??????

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I want men to think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 10-08-2010, 01:53 PM   #14 (permalink)
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1. Sharing of Faith: This can be a beautiful thing if done right, always keep God first in a marriage, share the joys of loving our creator and each other, pray/ study together grow in spiritual wisdom together.
2. Intimacy: Not just the sexual kind but it is important. The sharing of the experience of life ; growing together ; that “deep look through the eyes into ones soul” kind of intimacy …true love of a women giving herself unconditionally
3. Family: Raising a family together/ kids/in-laws ; being that soccer mom helping the coach,(dad), being at practices/ games/doctors/school…helping grandmaw at the nursing home, all this makes a women very attractive
4. Charity: seeing a women that is very caring / giving not to just the family but to everyone, food drives, adopt a case worker, church activities…that is such a beautiful thing to witness a wife with caring / nurturing heart…again very attractive.
5. Honesty: be honest with your husband and your needs, don’t be manipulative /planning , be honest when needing help working through a challenge, don’t be afraid to sit down for a long talk and be honest and be able to take that honesty in return; Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary
6. Responsible: ability to help make a home a relaxing place; planning ahead , sharing with responsibilities utilizing each others strong points and using them to support each other accordingly, Frugal with finances,,, but not so much , let her husband know when he is out of line and be able to take same advice in reverse from a caring/ loving perspective
7. Ability to except life/change: things happen and a women who can adapt and be open to growth and new ideas in a positive way…I know this is not always the case but at least to strive for that know that no matter what the outcome you will be ok and loved…sense of security with a supportive nature
8. Individuality: except that spouses are very different and not may not always reason the way you think, respect for the other individuals as well, don’t try to change, rule or control people you have no control over…be the independent person you want to be within reason and by doing so let others, ability to make your own decisions


I could only come up with 8 gotta get back to work
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Old 10-08-2010, 04:45 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Keep 'em coming. We need one on the Ladies Lounge for wives. What are your Top 10 things for your husband's - that would be awesome to compare and see if any of us are in the same boat!
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