Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom View Post
I was not feeling attacked. Yah I snarked at him. I am snarkalishiss like that. I do have a pet thing about repeatedly being told I am saying something other than what I am saying. Call me crazy. Is there an emotional need for that? Understanding?
For the record, I am not here to make my marriage work. I like discussions. I find marriage and parenting fascinating.
If you weren't feeling attacked, then I guess I'm still acting too nice.
Brennan - I don't think most men need for their wives to change in order to clam up. I know I go through periods where I'm VERY antisocial - when I'd rather be alone than be around anyone. Then other times I find being around people can be a good thing.
Going through this separation / EA stuff with my wife, I've bounced back and forth like a pinball. Kept it all in for a while - then started being very open - then clammed up again when I thought it was truly over.
Even though things are better with us right now, I'm still very quiet about things - almost like I'm afraid I'm going to jinx things somehow.
Are there other things that could have triggered a change? Job loss or changes at work? Pending layoffs? Financial issues? Death in the family?
But I guess what I'm really saying is that me - personally - I'll just go into emotional hibernation on my own from time to time with no real rhyme or reason that I've figured out.
But this board is a bit different. Its almost more like an online journal - with feedback. And the more open I am here, the better the feedback will be.