Anybody want to take a stab at the question I posed? What makes a man happy in a relationship/marriage?
Knowing without a doubt that your woman is into you. I don't care what you call it or how you express it.
This was the beginning of the end for me. Her inability or lack of desire to express admiration, appreciation, respect, love, passion, or plain old flirty playfulness. For me personally, laughter and playfulness is big. I suppose you might call it expressive joy. Joy, that here we are still doing what we do, and it can still make us joyful.
Replace all of those with their negative counterparts, expectation, disappointment, resentment, ambivalence, disrespect and malaise. It got to the point where it was impossible for me to feel happy about the relationship when the message I consistently got was associated with negativity.
Even where sex is concerned. If you can't be enthusiastic, passionately aggressive, or playful then don't bother. It ain't supposed to be a chore that you put up with. It's supposed to be something you desire to do ... that you desire to do with me
. Make me feel like a hero in the bedroom, and I will march through the gates of Hell for you.
It just seems so obvious to me ... express and practice the emotions you want to cultivate in your partner. That's simply the way people work. And if your partner simply refuses to let the good in ... then you are wasting your time and your life