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Positively strange. It is ok for Nice to repeatedly criticize me for ... things I never said. Accuse me of being... confident as if that were a fault. But I make a comment to that effect, I am too snarky.
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Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom
Positively strange. It is ok for Nice to repeatedly criticize me for ... things I never said. Accuse me of being... confident as if that were a fault. But I make a comment to that effect, I am too snarky.
Nice chatting with you!
Men have to Man-up and women have to Toy-up. The definition of Toy-up being that in order to be listened to by a man and be a woman they must be able to keep looking at you as a woman so you must be coy and sweet if you are going to also be confident and bold. Basically, you have to be willing to be their toy or they have no reason to associate and converse. Sigh.
I like the word snarky though. I imagine Bob with a sexy British accent so I forgive him. Niceguy has a yellow Dyson vaccuum and an accounting ledger so I forgive him. Conrad I just see as bitter so far, waiting for some interesting characteristics to pop up.
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Okay, this is getting a little ridiculous. I don't think that NG was attacking you in any way VT Mom. Perhaps I read that wrong but he seems really genuine. We are ALL here for one purpose and one purpose only: to try and make our marriage work. I appreciate insight from all, even if I don't agree with all of it. This is a forum after all of random people and their issues. I like this website. I like this place. We ALL have our own personalities and style. Can we just agree to at least listen without criticism? I get enough of that at home.
And yes, Bob to me is a younger Anthony Hopkins (fantastic!!), Niceguy is Matthew McConnehy (awesome!!), Conrad is Frasier Crane (brilliant and articulate!!). Deejo is Johnny Depp (hilarious and balanced) All that is left is BBW and Scannerguard. Not sure yet. :-)
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Originally Posted by Brennan
Okay, this is getting a little ridiculous. I don't think that NG was attacking you in any way VT Mom. Perhaps I read that wrong but he seems really genuine. We are ALL here for one purpose and one purpose only: to try and make our marriage work. I appreciate insight from all, even if I don't agree with all of it. This is a forum after all of random people and their issues. I like this website. I like this place. We ALL have our own personalities and style. Can we just agree to at least listen without criticism? I get enough of that at home.
And yes, Bob to me is a younger Anthony Hopkins (fantastic!!), Niceguy is Matthew McConnehy (awesome!!), Conrad is Frasier Crane (brilliant and articulate!!). All that is left is BBW and Scannerguard. Not sure yet. :-)
I agree Brennan
Scannerguard's name reminds me of an anti-virus software overall but I picture him as Mr. Clean...a horny, in search of a bimbo...Mr. Clean. Which is cool because at least he knows what he wants.
BBW I picture as the Big Bad Wolf, he didn't leave much up for imagination.
What I like most is that those that frequently post here seem genuine and I appreciate that above and below disagreements.
We're all pretty much awesome in our non, half fledged or full fledged marriage crisis's.
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Trenton,
Conrad =Pharmacist = math, critical thinking, taking care of others = Frasier Crane = Awesome.
Scanner is a CT dude = math, critical thinking = I am not sure. I used to think of him as Pierce Brosnan. Not the accent, as Scanner is from Jersey but the style of his posts.
BBW = Profession unknown = not known = ?? Regardless, his opinions matter to me. He presents a different style (for me) and I like it.
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Originally Posted by vthomeschoolmom
Positively strange. It is ok for Nice to repeatedly criticize me for ... things I never said. Accuse me of being... confident as if that were a fault. But I make a comment to that effect, I am too snarky.
Nice chatting with you!
VT - Not sure if you are still around or not - actually hope you are. I've disagreed with you frequently - but only criticized you once that I can recall.
Trenton - no one has asked you or any other woman to "Toy Up". I've asked very similar questions (why are you here if you have such strong opinions and no problems) to both MEM and BBW.
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VT - Not sure if you are still around or not - actually hope you are. I've disagreed with you frequently - but only criticized you once that I can recall.
Trenton - no one has asked you or any other woman to "Toy Up". I've asked very similar questions (why are you here if you have such strong opinions and no problems) to both MEM and BBW.
And is it "Snarly" or "Snarky"?
I didn't say you specifically asked me to toy up. I instead chose to generalize (heh) that men want women to toy up. Men and women classically are challenged by women who show confidence and strength of character. If vthome were a man her snarky attitude would be more acceptable. Conrad is hardly a delightful bowl of fruit but no one attacks him or refuses to converse with him. Before getting nasty with me in response for saying this, go back and re-read vthome and Conrad interactions in the "Crackin' Up" thread, he is putting short, un-related negative comments directed at her and then everyone accuses her of being snarky.
I have problems unlike mem and bbw and found this site when looking for marriage help out of frustration that my husband worked too often. I'm often frustrated, doubt my marriage and think about divorce from time to time. The last few days were bad ones for me although we talked about it last night and things are better, I know it's a temp fix. Reading the thoughts and advice of others has really helped me become a better communicator and I think appreciate my husband in a new light as well as see that he must feel a lot of pressure being the sole supporter of our family of five. This was a revelation for me. Well, enough about me...
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Yeah - the Crackin Up thread was the one where I was frustrated, but wasn't taking it personally. By the time Amp came in and told people (Conrad and VT) to tone it down, it had become a pi$$ing match and was no longer very interesting at that point.
If you want to learn about men, this is a good place to read. I'm still amazed at the openness and depth of some of the discussions that have taken place here over the last month or two.
Oh - and my Dyson is a bluish purple - not yellow!
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NG,
Amazed in a good way?
For me, I often wonder if things I post will come back to haunt me.
Yes - in a good way!
My wife (separated, but reconciling) knows I post and read on a marriage site, but letting her know my codename and the name of the site would be a bit much. Not sure what she would think if she ever found this site and read all of these posts.
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My husband read one post and that was the one that turned into Vikings and such. He laughed. I thought maybe that would segway in to him coming here but sadly, it did not.
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My husband read one post and that was the one that turned in Vikings and such. He laughed. I thought maybe that would segway in to him coming here but sadly, it did not.
So he knows about Dave from Accounting???
Probably not one of the more enlightening threads - but it was fun while it lasted!!!
Please tell him that we are truly capable of having real intellectual conversations that don't involve Vikings with pig tails! We are usually a very serious group here!
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See, I think that is what he is afraid of....the seriousness. Burying his head in the sand or laptop is easier. I asked him why he wouldn't come on a forum such as this and he said he didn't want to. He said opening up is hard for men. So I mentioned about all the men on this site and how they can open up. His response? They really are women posing as guys. wth?!
**Mind you, this guy was a chatterbox and visionary when we dated. He laid everything on the line. Never hid his feelings/thoughts. He's come a long way from that to the statement I just mentioned**
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