Sorry to rant but I have no outlet other than here. First, a little bit of background. I have been married to my wife for 3 years and have been with her for a total of 11 years.
Last year my wife told me that she didn't love me anymore and that she wanted to leave. I gave her that option and after a few trips to the marriage counselor she stopped going. At the meetings all she would do is complain about everything that I do that she feels is "fishy" or "weird" in a sense that she doesn't trust me. However, I never complained about anything and just let her talk. During my last meeting at the marriage counselor (when she didn't show up went to the movies with friends instead) the counselor himself said to me that she has some issues she needs to work out. A week later she came apologizing for the way she was acting for the past 4 months and that she loved me.
Presently we are together and a few months ago she had said that she wanted to have a child. We have been trying unsucessfully for the past 2 months and it might have been a blessing in disguise. She has repeatedly been getting really crazy (more than usual) with the nitpicking and the worrying that I'm not trustworthy. It's just constant and I can't take it anymore it happened again this morning and I was so aggravated I had to call out of work. I went into the shower this morning and brought my work clothes with me. When I came out of the shower she asked where my wallet was and I said that I had it in the bathroom because I was getting dressed. She replies that it is "weird" and what am I hiding so I give her my wallet and say here look at it I don't care. She says ok finds nothing and then asks if she can have my car keys to search my car. I finally said that this is going to far and that I'm not going to be treated like this on a daily basis. She storms out and goes to work.
So I sit down and think a little bit and think that I've been putting up with alot of stuff and I don't know how much longer I can do it. Things that really bother me are:
1. Constant distrust over everything.
2. Can't go out with friends (however she can) in fact I don't really have friends anymore because of her.
3. Can't talk to her family unless she's there (it's her family not mine). I don't really have a family so I'd like to think of them as family but she really won't let me.
4. She doesn't cook, clean, go grocery shopping. I'm not saying I want her to do these things all the time but a little help would be nice. I work full time sometimes 70 hrs a week and she has been laid off.
5. I don't have an opinion on anything. When she asks for my opinion I just get berrated for having an opinion that she thinks is wrong. So now I just don't have one anymore.
6. She can turn anything I say into an argument so I don't really talk anymore because I don't want to argue.
7. She says I'm selfish and antisocial. I bought a pack of gum last week and told her to try the new flavor and all I got was why didn't I buy her a pack too and that I'm selfish. I choose not to go out with her friends that don't even want me there to begin with and she says I'm antisocial.
8. I've been going to bed earlier and earlier just to get away from her because I don't want to feel the way she makes me feel.
Sorry for the long post and even this is just a partial list of things I just can't deal with anymore. Anyone have any suggestions?
Last year my wife told me that she didn't love me anymore and that she wanted to leave. I gave her that option and after a few trips to the marriage counselor she stopped going. At the meetings all she would do is complain about everything that I do that she feels is "fishy" or "weird" in a sense that she doesn't trust me. However, I never complained about anything and just let her talk. During my last meeting at the marriage counselor (when she didn't show up went to the movies with friends instead) the counselor himself said to me that she has some issues she needs to work out. A week later she came apologizing for the way she was acting for the past 4 months and that she loved me.
Presently we are together and a few months ago she had said that she wanted to have a child. We have been trying unsucessfully for the past 2 months and it might have been a blessing in disguise. She has repeatedly been getting really crazy (more than usual) with the nitpicking and the worrying that I'm not trustworthy. It's just constant and I can't take it anymore it happened again this morning and I was so aggravated I had to call out of work. I went into the shower this morning and brought my work clothes with me. When I came out of the shower she asked where my wallet was and I said that I had it in the bathroom because I was getting dressed. She replies that it is "weird" and what am I hiding so I give her my wallet and say here look at it I don't care. She says ok finds nothing and then asks if she can have my car keys to search my car. I finally said that this is going to far and that I'm not going to be treated like this on a daily basis. She storms out and goes to work.
So I sit down and think a little bit and think that I've been putting up with alot of stuff and I don't know how much longer I can do it. Things that really bother me are:
1. Constant distrust over everything.
2. Can't go out with friends (however she can) in fact I don't really have friends anymore because of her.
3. Can't talk to her family unless she's there (it's her family not mine). I don't really have a family so I'd like to think of them as family but she really won't let me.
4. She doesn't cook, clean, go grocery shopping. I'm not saying I want her to do these things all the time but a little help would be nice. I work full time sometimes 70 hrs a week and she has been laid off.
5. I don't have an opinion on anything. When she asks for my opinion I just get berrated for having an opinion that she thinks is wrong. So now I just don't have one anymore.
6. She can turn anything I say into an argument so I don't really talk anymore because I don't want to argue.
7. She says I'm selfish and antisocial. I bought a pack of gum last week and told her to try the new flavor and all I got was why didn't I buy her a pack too and that I'm selfish. I choose not to go out with her friends that don't even want me there to begin with and she says I'm antisocial.
8. I've been going to bed earlier and earlier just to get away from her because I don't want to feel the way she makes me feel.
Sorry for the long post and even this is just a partial list of things I just can't deal with anymore. Anyone have any suggestions?