Listen, this post, it is full of red flags.
Divorce, affairs, a miserable life.
Understand these words, because unless you are making some hard decisions and actions soon, they will become your reality.
1. Your woman, she is not respecting you.
2. She is not respecting you because, you are not acting to her like a man, you are acting like a boy.
3. The woman, in the relationship with a man she sees as a boy, she is going to be full of angst, perfectionist, nagging, insulting, full of resentment, seething with contempt, looking for a fight, zero sex, and she will continue on this way until this happens, she finds another man that lights her fire and makes her feel like the feminine woman again (and not like a mother), this is the affair man!
And understand this, if a woman is ever saying "I love you but I'm not in love with you", or she is saying "I don't love you", or she is saying "I need space", understand this even if nothing else, the affair man is not just around the corner, the affair man is at the front door and the front door is unlocked! BEWARE!
If there is an affair man in the picture, before anything else this affair man must be put out of the picture, the affair must be smashed!
This MUST be done if there is an affair, because if so then your woman is NOT going to be interested in fixing your marriage, she is going to be be only interested in the fun and romance and "emotoinal high" she is getting from the affair man.
The affair man, if he has come around, he MUSt be gone first thing.
ANd then regardless of affair or not, to turn this around, this is what you must stop doing!
You must stop appeasing and giving in to this woman!
You must stop any disrespectful talk from this woman!
You must stop this woman telling you what you "can" and "cannot" do.
And this is what you must start doing:
Do take ownership of your own happiness, from your own leadership.
Do start doing the hobbies, sports, or pastimes you enjoy doing, preferably something you are very skilled at. This boosts your confidence, and lets your woman see you in the light she saw you in dating, the good man skilled and talented, dominant, a winner.
Do take full ownrship of your physical fitness. Get to the gym, weights, running, whatever it is to improve your physical and mental sharpness and atraction.
Do take ownesrhip of your hygiene and grooming, to present yourself to your woman respectable at all times, confident, calm, sharp, well dressed, and looking good.
Do put all these together in this one package, and have this attitude and really GET good and presenting this attitude, that as the good man that could have ANY woman in the world, yet the woman you desire is YOUR woman.
Any attitude contrary to this, that you are "lucky" to have your woman, that you would "never leave" your woman, that you "don't look" at other woman, any attitude such as this, bury this in the deepest sea from your mind, they are relationship killers!
Confidence, boldness, edginess, dominance, even arrogance and extra willing to confront your woman when SHE is out of line or needs correcting (instead the other way around, how refreshing!).
Learn and unnerstand how such things are so very sexual arousing to your woman, and how being this way shows your woman she is not in a relationship with a boy, but a good MAN!
This is the way to get rid of angst and nagging and disrespect from your woman, and replace those feelings with respect and sexual attraction, as it was when you and her were dating and sex was on fire!
Learn to embrace conflict, confrontation, and become not just good at conflict, but the master of conflict.
Understand these things:
A woman, she will always resent a weak man.
A woman, she will always respect, an be sexual attracted to the man who is control of himself, and his environment, the dominant man.
FRom this minute on, not even that, from this second on, for the sake of your marriage, your happiness, and the happiness of your woman, you must get control of yourself and your happiness.
Your happiness, it must not come from anywhere or anyone else than YOUR own leadership and desire.
All good men reading this, never, I mean NEVER, stake your happiness on the approval or disapproval of your woman. This is leading to misery for you both.
Your woman, she does not want to be a mother to you, she wants to be on fire with sexual desire to a man that is his own man, the good man, who is happy and successful from his own leadership, desires, and appetites, and who finds her sexually desirable so much that he invites her into his happiness.
These tings, they are spoken to in much more detail in these other threads, so read them when you have time. what's attractive...my wife's input How About Them Apples?
These things, they take boldness and courage, but these things must be done to replace marriage misery with marriage bliss.
I wish you well.