I wish I knew , it's certainly not me as it was gone before we got started , he used his ex wife as an excuse that it had gone as she had put him off with her aggressive ways generaly, he hated her, 4 years down the road and still no sex drive , no matter what I did ,(and I say did because I have now given up) , nothing, prob 4 times in 4 years to be honest. I think writing this is therepy for me as it is me who is bothered about it not him ,
When it's gone it's gone in our case and we have to spend the next whatever years never doing it again.
So many threads around here about women complaining that they don't have enough sex.
And yet "generally" men are supposed to be the hornier of the two genders.
What is it that turns a man off sexually?
I guess I could understand a woman being turned off by a selfish "one pump chump." But men - we're too easy. Barring any health problems, we are almost guaranteed to have an orgasm no matter how bad or inept our lover may be.
How does something that feels so fantastic come to be viewed almost as just another chore for some of us?
What kills a man's sex drive:
I'm a rational woman
2. too much alcohol
3. lack of testosterone
5. unplesant woman
It doesn't - until they receive the message that they don't matter.
Then, the passive aggressive side starts to seek revenge on the one neglecting them.
The withdrawal of romance/affection leads directly to a shut-down of sex.
You all have really good points...the weight,,nagging kids first, guys do need a little romance but I didn't see anyone enter age and stres into the discussion. My husband, if he wanted it badly enough before his little "break" would/could do it whenever, but when he was stressed and knew I was busy, tired, overworked, would start taking care of business on his own during the day to help relieve stress. Now, granted I was told that as a lead up to his mental episode you can become hypersexual but that would make me think several times a day.
After sexting him once about how long it's been, miss him, etc... trying to turn him on, he admitted that the noise in the house, the homework, sports travel for child, mind wouldn't stop working thanks to work, it just got easier. Food for thought.