So many threads around here about women complaining that they don't have enough sex.
And yet "generally" men are supposed to be the hornier of the two genders.
What is it that turns a man off sexually?
I guess I could understand a woman being turned off by a selfish "one pump chump." But men - we're too easy. Barring any health problems, we are almost guaranteed to have an orgasm no matter how bad or inept our lover may be.
How does something that feels so fantastic come to be viewed almost as just another chore for some of us?
I wonder if the snuffing out of the fire in the belly piece has to do with it.
I would also surmise that performance anxiety and ED issues can have a huge impact as well.
Well....get the hell over it! We need SEX! lol
Seriously, if we can get fat and birth children, have stretch marks and our boobs sag and want sex....trust me...you guys can deal w/performance anxiety and ED issues!
I wonder if the snuffing out of the fire in the belly piece has to do with it.
I would also surmise that performance anxiety and ED issues can have a huge impact as well.
The "snuffing" makes sense if the guy is too nice and the woman is uninterested. But there are a lot of VERY interested women not getting their needs met. Unless these women are leaving out the part about the strap-on they want to use, then I just don't get it.
Perf. Anx and ED - "talk to your doctor and see if (insert one of 5 different drug names here) is right for YOU". A bunch of scientists who couldn't get it up got some huge grants from wealthy old men who couldn't get it up and found a cure!
I just remember as a horny young kid/man watching "Married with Children" - and Al Bundy complaining when his wife wanted to have sex. It made NO sense to me then. But now, I kind of get the joke.
And as men - isn't the generalization that we remove emotions from the equation at least partially true?
I'm wondering if I'm going to get anyone to really open up here. To admit you sometimes see sex as a chore, or that you've lost your fire, is probably hard to own up to.
I'm wondering if I'm going to get anyone to really open up here. To admit you sometimes see sex as a chore, or that you've lost your fire, is probably hard to own up to.
I never see it as a chore, but my husband certainly must....And the thing I don't understand is how he exclaims how good it is (when we would have sex) one yr is was FOUR times! It's been a few months now (I used to keep up, now I don't care-take care of myself) *sigh* oh well
Depression, stress, alocohol, drugs, and nagging wives can also be contributing factors.
JustAGirl, you illustrate another big one ... they just aren't attracted to their partner any more.
haha I wasn't talking about me....
Depression=get help/meds (we do)
stress=work out...hell HAVE SEX (great stress reducer)
alcohol=stop/get help
drugs=sstop/get help (or use viagra)
nagging=put something in her mouth to shut her up...a credit card will work!
LOL
And the thing I don't understand is how he exclaims how good it is (when we would have sex)
Exactly!
There have been plenty of times I wasn't in the mood, but you get in the mood pretty easily if you just start to go through the motions. Fake it till you make it! And it doesn't take long until it isn't fake anymore.
I bet for many men with ED ear plugs would be just as effective as any pill they could take!
Depression=get help/meds (we do)
stress=work out...hell HAVE SEX (great stress reducer)
alcohol=stop/get help
drugs=sstop/get help (or use viagra)
nagging=put something in her mouth to shut her up...a credit card will work!
LOL
I'm only half kidding
Trust me, I'm not arguing with you. I agree. I was in the same position in my marriage that you are in yours.
There have been plenty of times I wasn't in the mood, but you get in the mood pretty easily if you just start to go through the motions. Fake it till you make it! And it doesn't take long until it isn't fake anymore.
I bet for many men with ED ear plugs would be just as effective as any pill they could take!
I will tell you that it really helps to have a woman who hasn't put on 50 pounds.
I can see where nagging and constant criticism would also deflate many a thing.
Boredom is also an enemy.
One thing most don't talk about. When they see the emotional needs of the children put ahead of their own........ and even when the children are not in distress.... the spontaneous search for some "reason" to care for the kids....
Depression=get help/meds (we do)
stress=work out...hell HAVE SEX (great stress reducer)
alcohol=stop/get help
drugs=sstop/get help (or use viagra)
nagging=put something in her mouth to shut her up...a credit card will work!
LOL
Children definitely can kill the opportunity - but having children shouldn't kill the desire as well, right? At least not in men...
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Originally Posted by Conrad
I will tell you that it really helps to have a woman who hasn't put on 50 pounds.
I can see where nagging and constant criticism would also deflate many a thing.
Boredom is also an enemy.
One thing most don't talk about. When they see the emotional needs of the children put ahead of their own........ and even when the children are not in distress.... the spontaneous search for some "reason" to care for the kids....
Children definitely can kill the opportunity - but having children shouldn't kill the desire as well, right? At least not in men...
*pffffffffffffffft* before children, there was my daddy, three brothers, no place to go, not enough time to get completely naked etc....but THAT didn't stop him before!
What Kills a Man's Sex Drive? 
