Trenton

You know, I'm going to collect all your one liner's and ongoing song about the man up thread and create a Conrad robot and give it to you as a Christmas gift.

Conrad

It wouldn't be nearly as sensual as the real thing.

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Trenton

Sensual. Hmmmm

Pavane

Amanda:

I'm in here late, but wanted to say, in a word, yes.

P.S. I think there is a lot of over-thought here. Yes, you can. You do need to work on yourself, but you can certainly do that in the company of a good and caring partner. Leaving your marriage is essential, which will be difficult to do, and I understand that, as do many others.

P.P.S. I don't think Scannerguard and his ilk mean harm, but I wouldn't take them too seriously. They're as much "wounded children" as any of us.

SallyAnne

I don't know why people keep banging on about the internet. That is the worst place to find love and boost your self esteem in my opinion. Too many time wasters on there with unrealistic expectations of finding a younger, slimmer, beautiful woman. If you do get to the point of someone suggesting meeting up or even talking on the phone, they usually back off at the last minute with some excuse like they have a cold or something. Genuine men are out in the real world, not hiding behind a computer screen in my opinion.

Holland

I had a blast internet dating and met some really great and interesting men. TBH I think it is a worthwhile exercise for those in the over 40 age bracket. Most people are busy, don't go to clubs etc so it is hard to meet others.

The key is to not take online dating or yourself too seriously, if you met a nice guy, have a fun night out then that is a bonus. Life is what you make of it, for me internet dating was a lot of fun.

I work from home, alone so found internet dating convenient and ended up with a wonderful man who is now my partner.

lovesherman

Another zombie thread. Trenton, do you remember saying this? LMFAO over here.

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You can absolutely find love again...and it might happen in the most unexpected place. I met my future wife on an airplane! Do you go to bookstores or church functions? Those places usually are easy to meet people in. How about your favorite coffee spot?

50 and beautiful....very nice!. I am 49 and feel like I am 35. Age is just a number given to you. Nothing more.

My best wishes to you Amanda!

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SallyAnne

I'm glad you had a positive experience. My problem is to get the dates in the first place. As I said in my previous post, the men all seem to pull out at the last minute when it comes to meeting someone or talking to them on the phone. Also, I think they just have too much choice and you don't stand a chance when there is much younger competition than you cos that is what normally go for. I also work from home but have only had two dates so far after a lot of hard work and not with very nice men.

I presume you are in the States? I'm in London and I think men are a lot more anal here.

Holland

SallyAnne I am in Aussie, a complete paradise when it comes to gorgeous men As for the age thing, I have always dated older men (5-10 years) so that worked in my favour as you are right, many men are looking for a younger woman.

There are others on TAM that talk about a meet up type of site which isn't dating but more for social activities, is there something like that near you?

Maybe it is different here but I know quite a few people that have met online and are in relationships. For sure there are plenty of time wasters and players but you learn to weed them out.

Also here there are many more men online than women so it is probably easy for us as we are the ones that get to pick and choose. Come for a visit to Oz, plenty of men here

SallyAnne

I'm definitely coming over to Oz then : - )

chillymorn

just be yourself and get out and enjoy life . I'm sure some friendly guy will find you..if you try too hard you will jst end up with a jerk let karma happen.


when you least expect it .....expect it.

RClawson

Amanda,

There are plenty of men out there that are going to find you attractive. I have always thought women over 40 are just fantastic. It is the wisdom and the maturity. Generally I find women over 40 to be very confident about their outlook and that is just pure sexy.

I would start building activities around your hobbies and volunteering somewhere that you have a passion for. I have no doubt that will shine through and will be recognized.

As long as you do not turn into a "house frau" you should keep heads turning and minds wondering.

MattMatt

I think you slightly misspoke, here.

You have not been told you are pretty, you are pretty. Very pretty indeed.

And young. No. Trust me. You are young!

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Woodchuck

My SIL married 5 times:
1) At 16 she married a Macho a$$hole serial cheater....Divorced
2) At 25 Maried his best friend, also a$$hole cheater..Divorced.
3)At 40 married for money...total jerk.....Divorced
4)At 45 married a nice guy with money....He died
6)At 50 married the best of the bunch...Totally devoted head
over heels in love true gentleman. kind honest, loving man.
She said she couldn't bear to loose him, hoped she
would die first...Got her wish last year...

She was a waitress, and met the last two as customers who came back to her place after loosing their wives....She saw how they treated women before she married them...I hope you do as well as the SIL did with her 50's love.....

good luck
the woodchuck