Originally Posted by amanda1959
I am just wondering where I can kind love again. I am 50 and still in good shape and I am told I am pretty. After all the pain in my marriage my self esteem is rock bottom. What should I do and where should I go to attract a loving relationship. I am ready
Amanda, aren’t you still married and still having problems with your husband?
Look I’m 61 been separated for near 12 months. Still fit, healthy etc. Lets just say for arguments sake the two of us met somewhere and “clicked”. I have to be honest with you Amanda if you are still married and if you haven’t put all the issues with your husband behind you, resolved them in your head and come to terms with them I would kindly walk away. No matter how attracted I felt towards you.
Ask yourself “Why would a man around our ages take on board a woman who hasn’t resolved her marriage issues and has low self-esteem?”.
I don’t mean to be unkind if that’s how I’m coming across. Rather I’m trying to encourage you to work on putting your marriage behind you if indeed you are married and that is what you have decided to do. Please do not go looking for a man with the expectation that he will raise your self-esteem. Why? Because if you start off your new journey that way you will attract the wrong type of man and your self-esteem and self-respect will go down even lower.
If you have ended your marriage in your head then get it over and done with. Then start working on yourself. Get out and enjoy life, pick up new hobbies, new interests find out what at the core of you what you are interested in doing. Those things will raise your self-esteem and self-respect. They are called “self” because they come from the inside of you. No one can “give” them to you, you have to get them yourself. Then while you are on that new journey you will meet people of similar minds and that’s when people become attracted to one another at our ages.