Re: why don't some guys want to remarry
We are raised to think that marriage means more permanent, but in my opinion, divorce is just a more expensive breakup. The reason marriages don't seem as permanent these days is because people choose to divorce rather than work hard through problems. Until that changes, marriage won't be anything more than a legally binding, though not indestructible, relationship.
Its already been said that some older men have a "once bitten twice shy" attitude towards it. If he's still paying off debt from the divorce, or he spent years living in a dingy apartment after having worked hard to have a nice place, its no wonder he wouldn't want to risk losing it again. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it just means that he probably didn't think the first relationship would fail and it did, so why take another chance.