shane33

Ok the long storey short my wife and i have been togather for 14 years now we have 4 girls well things were pretty bad for a while i was off in my own little world ignoring everyone well one day she could not handel it anymore and started chatting with some guy online soon after she left me moved out with the kids i come home to an empty house and it was a real wake up call so any ways she continues to chat with this guy and he tells her all the right things gains her trust and she he needs help needs to send her some money to have it sent back to him so he can get out of nigeria and come back home to the USA Ya right i new it was a scam she did not. She said she wanted to go see him she was telling him she loved him had all sorts of big plans. He got her credit card number and well guess what money is stolen. well big mess. so anyways we reconcile things but we are on real shaky ground as can be expeted so we are working on things and slowly it starts to get better for a bit. then about two months later i notice she is on the computer alot again real early in the morning and late at night when i am still in bed i asked her about it and dhe said nothing was going on. Ok so be it but it still continues so i get wondering one day she is at work so i broke into her email and find out she is chattin with another guy but this guy we know went to school with him lived beside them for awhile so i read a couple of emails and she is sending him love quotes tells him she has been dreaming about him want to get a big hug from him. says she has always had a crush on him but says he is just a friend and she gets along better with guys than with girls always has. Ok whatever but it continues then i find out she has been taking off for walks by her self at like midnight and she has phoned him and talked to him on the phone at midnight. I am in bed asleep( this guy lives in another town ) and she has been text messaging him also. Well one day i find a 4 page letter she has writen to this guy telling him of her feelings towards him how she is always dreaming about him her crush she has on him invited him to our town for a festival that was on says she wants a big hug from him. well i confront her on it and she is mad at me for reading her private stuff and then continues to tell me that he is just a friend and nothing is going on. I asked her what happens if this guy shows up in town she say he won't well guess what he showed up (with his girlfriend ) now they have been emailing and chattin for a month and a half back and forth love letters and so on now he shows up with a girlfriend and we run into him. awkward to say the least I see them givin each other a BIG hug and she is grining ear to ear and just gitty i am looking at the girlfriend and well she clung on to him and was trying to hold him close i could tell she was feeling weird to so now i am thinking that this girlfriend of his just might be a cover to ease my mind well needless to say i hit the roof and freaked out big time. We fought for a long time about this finally i went on the computer and delete him from everything she had him on. She says i have no right to delete her friends and nothing is going on between them yada yada yada same ol storey so things finally do calm down and he is out of the picture she says it was a highschool crush but it is gone now for good. Ok then we will see this was about a month ago that this happen we have been getting along really good and things were great.so i go on the computer two days ago and guess what he is back on her friends list huh wtf so i confrot her she says she requested him right after i deleted him she was mad that i had deleted him and so she wanted it back. Ok so now he is back as a friend well last night she tells me she has been invited to go to a wedding with a co-worker of hers (female) because the co-worker does not want to go alone. I asked whos wedding it was she does not know. She knows noone there and here is the real kicker it is a 15 hour drive to gett there she will be gone for three days. She tells me she already said yes she will go with no discussion whats o ever with me. after all this stuff that has gone down. I mean everything i had said has happened in the last 5 months. I really freaked out thinking now what is she up to she says i am being irrashanial and i am not being considerate of her feelings. Then shae say it will be a chance for her to see a friend she has not seen since highschool (girl ) her best friend whom she has not seen or talked to in over 15 years. So now i am freaking out and do not know what to think. Please help any input will help imput will help

loobylou22

ok so let her go
sorry but she obviousley is going to go with or wothout your permission?
tell her to take the camara you want to see lots of pictures of her little girly weekend away?

but to be honest i totaly agree with you i dont think for one min your been irrasanial at all i think you have a right to be concerned for the future of your marrage this will not be the best advice on this website there are lots of people who can give you better advice than me i thourght my marrige was on the rocks and got loads of brillient advice form people on here about my hubby these are an ace bunch of people that will help you in any way that they are able to.

brad

Your wife fell for the Nigerian scam. That tells me how desperate she is for something other then you. (and to be honest how dumb she is).And then the "friends" and all the lies. The wedding is more B.S.

Stand up like a man and tell her you will no longer put up with it. If she wont change her behavour tell her a divorce is the next step.

shane33

Thank you for your advise i still do not know what to do but i guess i will soon figure it out.

draconis

It seems your wife is only there until she can find something better.

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shane33

Well the more i think about it the more i half to agree with everyone i think she is trying to play me for a fool. Well this is a smart fool and i will not put up with it thanks for your replies i have some work to do now i guess please keep the comments coming though i would really like to hear other peoples oppinons on this matter