How much relationship-ing can you really be doing if you are constantly here?
A lot of people on the interwebs pretend to be something they're not. I just happen to feel you're one of them because your actions and your words don't exactly match up.
Lots of people enjoy using discussion forums & when we have down time @ home, @ work, or while running errands we may talk on the forums. There are other people who park it - continuously sit on the forums (or on facebook, etc).
Having a relationship means spending time together.
Looking at your postings, you are always HERE.
Unless you have figured out a way to manipulate the fabric of time & space itself, something just doesn't add up.
Nah, you have many different types of relationships, but they eventually boil down to a few things such trust, respect, boundaries and feeling loved. How you fill in the rest is up to you.
She just happens to be more on the serving and understanding side. He seems a bit more headstrong but understanding and respecting her needs. If that works, than it works. Just saying that green, while being a lovely woman, could never be my type. I'm also a somewhat serving guy, so I need someone who's more "dominant" for lack of a better word. Lots of girls would not like me for being "soft" but my gal likes it. She enjoys being treated as a princess. That does not mean that me and green don't have clear hard boundaries and we might actually defend them harder as we allow more.
About being on the forum 24/7
She could just have the pc on, check mail and forum, do stuff and come back 2 hours later to check again. You don't need to be hitting F5 all the time to reply often
Nah, you have many different types of relationships, but they eventually boil down to a few things such trust, respect, boundaries and feeling loved. How you fill in the rest is up to you.
She just happens to be more on the serving and understanding side. He seems a bit more headstrong but understanding and respecting her needs. If that works, than it works. Just saying that green, while being a lovely woman, could never be my type. I'm also a somewhat serving guy, so I need someone who's more "dominant" for a better word. Lots of girls would not like me for being "soft" but my gal likes it. She enjoys being treated as a princess. That does not mean that me and green don't have clear hard boundaries and we might actually defend them harder as we allow more.
About being on the forum 24/7
She could just have the pc on, check mail and forum, do stuff and come back 2 hours later to check again. You don't need to be hitting F5 all the time to reply often
Now I am going to cook, I will leave my computer on!
Draguna
People are happy when they feel they are doing meaningful things. I feel what I am doing on TAM is meaningful, I try to provide as much as I can, sometimes I might cause people pain in a way I didn't intend to, but I am here trying to support. This world needs more loving people!
On TAM, there are a lot of people who come to seek advice and help. I feel bad that I can't do much, I am reading a lot about human life so I can be more of help. I am always happy to see loving people here trying so hard to help others. My help is trivial, but it is meaningful!
Sorry to bump the thread, but respect is something which comes up from time to time in our relationship (always him saying I don't respect him, which belies the cussing etc he obviously considers is ok to mete out to me) and intrigues me no end. Is it a certain personality type who's more likely to regard respect as critical? I'm sure we all consider we deserve respect, but in exactly what form? Obedience? Trailing around after? Or simply treating them the way you would wish to be treated - which is what my mum taught me (though she didn't label it respect!)
For what it's worth, I have a feeling my OH would agree with this:
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Originally Posted by 4sure
(SNIPS) He feels disrespected if I take advantage of him, or take him for granted. If I push him aside or disregard his basic needs, and emotions. And never embarass him in public, that's a no no.
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People who overreact tend to see disrespect in many actions.
Interesting - did I mention overreaction?
It's just that that would be VERY perceptive; he's precisely that - highly sensitive and has an indescribable tendency to overreact to the slightest stimulus (up to and including loud noises, even when made by his 8yo son)
Very interesting - however how does that relate to disrespect?
Is it that they are viewing anything that grates with them as 'obviously done to cause harm or offence or upset' and therefore disrespectful of them?
Sorry I didn't read all of these posts but the thread title immediately made me think of this highly praised book. I think it is true men want "RESPECT" above all, and women want LOVE more so, a difference in the sexes and our needs.
Re: What is respect to a man? 
