Re: What is respect to a man?
I can remember a few examples in our marriage.
Many years ago, I wanted to buy an apartment, but at that time my husband wasn't sure about Taiwan's situation and he wasn't sure how long he would stay in Taiwan. He said no. I didn't pursue the topic. Then one year later, he wanted to buy an apartment, he realized that he would live in Taiwan for many years, and he knew how much I wanted a place of our own. We took the action right away. To this day, he is happy that I didn't push him into buying a place, and he is happy that we made a good choice of buying a place.
While we were buying furniture, I saw a set I really liked, but he thought the price was too expensive, he didn't want to buy it. I cried, (at that time I would still cry), but I walked away with him. A few days later, we saw a similar set in a different furniture store, only the price was cheaper, my husband bought it for us( or me) right away! It's European style, white color, I love it!
Now I am even better at handling this kind of situation, we go shopping, I see something I like, but he thinks it might be too expensive or not stylish. I just walk away with him no matter how much I love it!
I usually talk to him in a soft tone even though I disagree with him, I will tell him what's in my mind, but I never force him to do anything.
If he tells me he wants to pursue a hobby, right from the beginning, I say a few negative things, but I don't try to stop him from doing it. When he needs money, I usually let him buy something with better quality!
Last edited by greenpearl; 01-13-2011 at 06:45 PM.