Re: The thermostat - the ultimate barometer of your R
Sorry, but this will only work if your wife is still interested and hasn't checked out. I see this 'game' as a way of establishing if your wife still cares about you to a certain extent, by becoming warmer towards you. If she doesn't, then you are screwed.
I did get cooler and my wife was actually happy. She didn't feel overcrowded and didn't mind much. I think the only thing she minded was the feeling of being rejected, in a way, but she is too selfish to do anything about it, so she just gets along with it. I'm sure she doesn't like the fact I checked out, but that is, again, a selfish thing, because she can't help but feeling guilty about it.
What MEM doesn't mention is that your marriage must still be on track. If you feel the need of getting cooler, your marriage is already screwed, believe me. So, all in all a good way to check if your wife is still into it or not. But don't complain when you have the epiphany...