Re: The thermostat - the ultimate barometer of your R
Depends. Is that where your relationship started?
Odds are there was a catalyst event. Either she came up to your temp to seal the deal, or your need to express love exceeded hers as the relationship progressed. Something in your relationship dynamic shifted, thus shifting her level of engagement, interest in, or attraction to you.
Your words here hit the mark. Before she called for divorce and I started to pick-up on the signs she had changed her role, I directely used the words that "she was not engaged in our marriage" and asked her why. I never got an answer that registered. Now she has very little attraction to me. She would prefer not to have sex, but has. No interest in anything but letting me get some. Does not feel the way it should.
In another thread I talk about this guy she works with that came into the picture last year, who I know she does lunch and coffee with regularly. I am not blaming him as the reason things changed, but she is definitely interested in him by what I have learned. Much taller, over 10 years younger, ex pro-baseball player. She still emails him to do lunch even while we are going to a MC. This will be addressed next week.