I was warned about this "male version of a fitness test" has reared its head.
Conrad said my H would "passively aggressively withhold the behaviors" I said I appreciated from him:
namely, having a conversation about something that's important to me--calmly, positively, "openly."
Yes, he did: about the article I wrote. (I posted in "general.")
He read it (I had asked him to), and then was very closed off to conversation about it, very negative, almost judgmental.
So he delivered on Conrad's prediction, and then some: aggressive, not just passive aggressive.
How do I pass these "fitness tests"?
I'm so sick of this pattern, SO SICK of it.
I'm trying to 180, trying to cool down my temp, trying to "(wo)man up."
i've never assumed the role of needy, desperate, pathetic partner before this.
I've never felt so shut out and pushed out, unappreciated, before my own husband.
I'm trying not to crumble. HELP!!!
Any suggestions from all the "nice guy/man up" husbands, suggestions that can apply to a wife who is trying SO hard?
(I read "why men marry b****es," but I already married him, it didn't really apply.)
This pit in my gut is becoming unbearable.
Is there a comparable "no more mr. Nice Guy" playbook for me?
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