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Tribute shot cheating or not?

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Is sending a "tribute" shot cheating?

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#1 ·
I just learned of this term today!

So there is this chick who sends out pictures of herself to men she chats with. All the pics are definitely risqué and she is scantily clad but in highly provocative poses. She then asks her male friends, most of whom are likely married, to masturbate and ejaculate on her photo, I guess somewhere along the line they have to print it out. Then the men friends take a picture of their leavings splashed onto her picture, and send her the picture of their ejaculate on a picture of her.

On one hand, seems a rather harmless form of live porn. On the other hand, there is at least some form of relationship because they chat on line.

What is the consensus of the men, cheating or not?
 
#8 ·
I'm asking if what the men are doing is cheating. Assuming the chick has some form of go ahead from her husband, assuming he gets off on all these men wanking off to his wife's provocative image.
 
#10 ·
It's gross behaviour but I don't think it, by itself is cheating. I think if it were happening alongside a lot of messaging back and forth, then yes, it's cheating.

If I found out my husband was sending tribute shots to random girls asking for them on reddit or similar then I'd be annoyed, but I would feel more betrayed if it were in the context of a longer (online) association, as then it's more into the online EA territory.
 
#12 ·
First, my waistline thanks you for ruining my appetite.

Second, I always hold to the same standard of cheating. To wit, if there are living personalities involved (I'll worry about AI later), it is cheating.

So a man watching a porn movie or reading a porn story: not cheating. Brianna Banks can't look him in the eye, and give him an extra wiggle just for him. It is a bunch of pixels NOT directed at a specific customer and NOT adaptable to his fetishes and emotional needs.

However, sexting, a live actress who will smoke for a smoke fetish guy, a stripper who gives a lap dance and will call him 'Daddy', this involves a living person bringing him off.

She is bringing them off and interacting with them. So it's cheating.

Long winded I know, but I want to be logical and think things through.
 
#13 ·
If those men's wives had no problem with it, then it isn't cheating.
But that's hardly likely, except if it's some sort of sex club.

So most likely they are actively involved in an EA with her, no different to cybersex with a webcam girl or another female.

I'm wondering if the same rule can be applied to married men who send pictures of their d*cks to other women for their *entertainment?*

I would think it does.

Not the first time I've heard of " tribute shots" , just in another context.
 
#29 ·
I'm wondering if the same rule can be applied to married men who send pictures of their d*cks to other women for their *entertainment?*
No, I don't think so. Erect or not a d!ck pic isn't a direct representation of intercourse. You're applying a level of symbolic prudery here, IMO. Nudists come to mind. I often wonder if our society didn't place such an excruciating exactness of prudery would there be so damn many sexual hang ups?

Wanking and taking a pic of the ejaculate, that's pretty clearly a sexual event, where as a d!ck pic isn't. Close to the line, but not a sexual event.


Unless of course the tribute you are sending back is actually a mock shot on her photo covered in 8 ounces of Jergens. Then it's kind of funny, but weirder than it was in the first place.
8 oz eh? That's an intimidating thought.


But what if that person's spouse knows ,and agrees for example , in an " open marriage" or swinger type of arrangement?

Would you still consider it cheating in that context?

As I said in one of my posts above, the chick is involved in some type of swinging arrangement with her husband. And to be fair, she doesn't represent herself as some model of piety as she flirts outrageously. But if both the chick and the man tributing were in open arrangments...we have nothing to discuss cause it's not cheating.
 
#15 ·
She regularly chats with them? Like sexting/texting/email/PM on sites? Then yes, it's cheating. If they had no contact, like porn or whatever, I would say no... Disgusting, but no. But talking to someone and requesting or getting the tributes is cheating... and revolting.
 
#17 ·
If it involves serial deception and investing your sexual energy in someone other than your spouse, it's betrayal.

Unless of course the tribute you are sending back is actually a mock shot on her photo covered in 8 ounces of Jergens. Then it's kind of funny, but weirder than it was in the first place.
 
#23 ·
Re: Re: Is sending a "tribute" shot cheating?


And that's even if ONE of that "half" is in the dark. It doesn't matter if the spouse of one gets off on it. If the "other side" is keeping his (or her) spouse in the dark, it is cheating. Period.
 
#24 ·
Sounds like beating off to a picture of a scantily clad woman with whom you chat.

I don't see why we need everything to fit into black and white, cheating or not cheating categories. For some couples this wouldn't be a problem, for others it would. Members of each partnership have an obligation to know what their spouses find acceptable and doesn't.
 
#31 ·
I agree with the philosophy. However, I don't really want to know the details of my husbands private mind movies as he wanks. I would never dictate, nor even influence, what he can think about during the occasional self abuse.
 
#25 ·
Although the term is not a new one to me. There's actually an entire subreddit devoted to this phenomenon. Believe it or not, there are women out there who collect these sorts of pictures from men, and they'll troll all kinds of sites to get them.
 
#30 ·
I'm not sure how hot I would find it if someone sent me a picture of my face with what could be week-old mayo all over it

Now if it was an action video I suppose it could be

As for cheating, well agree with what others have said to the extent that if it was my husband/bf jizzing over some girl he's texting/chatting with then of course his ass would be out the door. If he's doing it to porn then whatever. It's the emotional context, as with everything
 
#32 ·
Yeah if it's a consensual act among adults with full spousal awareness and support for both parties, then odd though it may be, I wouldn't call that cheating.

It's when it's done via a covert nature, and/or when one party is diverting time/sexual/emotional energy to this person that should have gone to their spouses that it becomes cheating.

The issue is that it's not always a clear demarcation in a person's head that they've gone from something innocent to something not so innocent. And a person will invent all kinds of reasoning to justify it as that happens.
 
#35 ·
My husband sent **** pics to women who asked for them. That's cheating. I also consider it cheating when he accepted pics of them in sexual poses back. He was interacting with specific women for the purpose of sexual titillation. It's a step beyond looking at porn.

He also posted his pics on his profiles on sites like AFF. I also consider that cheating because the purpose of the profile is to cheat.

I have no idea if he participated in tribute shots. If he did it's definitely cheating.

If he had gone on some exhibitionist site just to post **** pics and nothing else, I suppose that isn't cheating. Just revolting.
 
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