05-07-2012, 10:59 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: United States
| | Re: EA already moving towards PA!
You confronted your fear directly. You got control of YOU and in doing so took control of your life.
Originally Posted by MisterNiceGuy
Wow, I knew this day would come. I still have the most replies ever on a thread for the Men's Clubhouse!
Well, it's been an interesting year since I stopped updating this thread. At times I've mulled over pulling it down so my wife wouldn't stumble on it in the future, but I think it's a great resource for the classic Nice Guy that needs to man up and get on with his life.
About a year ago my wife decided to give it another try after her brief EA with a neighbor. I also decided to jump all the way in to see if there was really something there or not. Our financial problems have eased quite a bit and that isn't hanging over our heads causing problems. Our sex life is really good for a couple of 50 year olds. We have both upped our sex ranks by getting in shape (not that we were really out of shape, but now we are looking really good). I would say that we've had some ups and downs, but mostly ups! Although, I have to say that she used the divorce word last week, but instead of hovering around her and worrying about what she was thinking I told her take a hike and talk to me in the morning when she'd had a good nights sleep and lo and behold the problem went away! She even told me how I don't put up with her sh1t anymore! I'll tell you there is nothing like going through that torture to put a new perspective on everything. I put myself first and everyone else is second! Again I wanted to thank everyone for helping me through this. I really want to thank Athol and Dr. Robert Glover. Athol and Glover's books really set me straight and I don't know if I mentioned this before but I live in the Seattle, WA area and was lucky enough to get into one of Dr. Glover's mens groups last year and I can't tell you what a difference it made for me. I still check Athol's blog daily and I suggest anyone having the same problems I did to become an Athol Kay disciple. Of course there many guys here that offered great advice. Too many to name, but I am in awe of the amount of time some of these guys spend on these forums. I know I can't spend nearly the amount time I would like here to help out. I could easily spend a couple of hours a day answering questions here.
I know that I'm the exception that I made it through and am pretty happy with my marriage right now, but I think it can be done if you want to put the effort into it if it's not completely f&cked up!