I find myself craving a more peaceful and drama free environment in my thirties. In my twenties I would tolerate drama queens because the sex was awesome and frequent. Don't get me wrong I still love sex but my wife is such a drama queen that it kills my sex drive. It's like I have ZERO tolerance for women's emotional issues. Is this normal as you get older? Posted via Mobile Device
I find myself craving a more peaceful and drama free environment in my thirties. In my twenties I would tolerate drama queens because the sex was awesome and frequent. Don't get me wrong I still love sex but my wife is such a drama queen that it kills my sex drive. It's like I have ZERO tolerance for women's emotional issues. Is this normal as you get older? Posted via Mobile Device
I don't know if it is normal or how prevalent it is, but yes, I find I am less patient than I was as a younger man. (I am 38.) But I am that way in all aspects of my life, not just my wife. Some of it may be the usual challenge that comes from being married a long time.
I think you should engage in some introspection and figure out why this is happening. I am still trying to figure it out myself.
as a man who recently entered his 30's... I found I had less patience ten years ago than I do now... but I will say there were things that was cute back then, that if done now would just be a embarassing wreck now... so I feel people have a different view of things but it's just called maturity...
If you become less patient as you grow older, you are not maturing.
If you cannot tolerate your wife's "emotional issues", you are not ready to be married. People have issues; not everyone can be perfect like you.
Instead of looking down at your wife for her issues, how about trying to help or sending her to a therapist? It sounds like her husband is an immature and self centred teenage boy. Posted via Mobile Device
If you become less patient as you grow older, you are not maturing.
If you cannot tolerate your wife's "emotional issues", you are not ready to be married. People have issues; not everyone can be perfect like you.
Instead of looking down at your wife for her issues, how about trying to help or sending her to a therapist? It sounds like her husband is an immature and self centred teenage boy. Posted via Mobile Device
I never referred to patience. That I have plenty off. Perhaps I was not very clear. When I referred to "emotional issues" it's issues that destroy the peace. For example jealously, insecurities, bad temper, etc. And yes I have taken her to three different therapists and they all concur that she needs mood stabilizers+therapy. She doesn't want to get help hence why I asked people here if with age they has less tolerance for drama queens/kings Thank you for the feedback. Posted via Mobile Device
I find myself craving a more peaceful and drama free environment in my thirties. In my twenties I would tolerate drama queens because the sex was awesome and frequent. Don't get me wrong I still love sex but my wife is such a drama queen that it kills my sex drive. It's like I have ZERO tolerance for women's emotional issues. Is this normal as you get older? Posted via Mobile Device
LOL. I had to laugh when I saw your post. My estranged husband could have written that post when he moved out of the house in 2008. Yet, at age 44 he was dating a 23 year old women and a couple of more below the age of thirty. You better believe we had drama in the house over that for two years--and he was causing it. And to this day can't see how a 23 year old, spoiled "Sugar Baby" could be drama free.
I agree with the others here. We gain more patience and wisdom as we grow old. It's called maturity. If you are having unwanted drama in your house, please look for the causes. And if you wanted zero emotional women's issues, you should have considered getting a pet instead of a wife. Unfortunately all humans come with emotional issues.
Good luck finding maturity or that drama free life.
Well I can only speak for myself. I have found as I have gotten older, in my 40's now, I have changed in many ways. one of those ways is I have become MORE tolerable of women's emotional issues. I was probably less tolerable when I was younger as I was still learning how females and their sometimes emotional issues worked.
When I say "emotional issues" I'm meaning more along the lines of hormones, or depression etc. NOT drama queen emotional issues with other friends etc. MY wife and I have a few friends we surround ourselves with. Most of those are friends who have the same kinds of interests. More mature friends who aren't into drama filled issues. Some friends we had to kind of back off from along the way of aging, due to changing interest. Some of the friends we had were still into the bar scene, getting drunk, wondering who was sleeping with who or whatever. Those days are gone, mostly because we ended up, growing up.
I never referred to patience. That I have plenty off. Perhaps I was not very clear. When I referred to "emotional issues" it's issues that destroy the peace. For example jealously, insecurities, bad temper, etc. And yes I have taken her to three different therapists and they all concur that she needs mood stabilizers+therapy. She doesn't want to get help hence why I asked people here if with age they has less tolerance for drama queens/kings Thank you for the feedback. Posted via Mobile Device
Ah, I see. You cannot help those who do not wish to help themselves.
Having "zero tolerance" for jealousy or insecurities indicate a lack of patience. How about some empathy and compassion?
Has your wife communicated why she refuses meds and therapy. Posted via Mobile Device
When women start aging, their world is fulfilled with insecurities and anxiety. Not too surprising, for you're not alone. A little idea, when you're impatient, try to close an eye and an ear on what she's doing.
Just follow the flow... Perhaps, the therapy might help, but most importantly, you can be impatient but remember to continue paying the bills for your drama queen.
She needs medication for anxiety.
[QUOTE=Mrs.G;278074]Ah, I see. You cannot help those who do not wish to help themselves.
Having "zero tolerance" for jealousy or insecurities indicate a lack of patience. How about some empathy and compassion?
Has your wife communicated why she refuses meds and therapy.
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Did you read my whole post? I took her to three different therapists, paid for it out of pocket, took time off work and she says the therapist don't know anything and that she will change by herself.
And as far as your comment on tolerance, jealously and insecurities are immature feelings that should have been dealt with years ago. These issues from a 40 year old woman gets old VERY fast. Posted via Mobile Device
Depression, anxiety, mood swings, bad temper, nagging, crying, yelling... Those negativities are typical qualities of most wives, including myself.
All the husbands must be ready if they want to stay married with their dear wives, they MUST learn how survive with it and endure it when the drama begins.
You don't always need patient but wisdom. Posted via Mobile Device
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