Wife does not show any affection-need advice
A little background info: Married for 15 years, high school sweethearts, 2 kids 13/8. My wife is a stay at home mom for the last 10 years. Kids are busy in after school programs.
I have provided the family with a very comfortable lifestyle, work very hard in a high stress job to provide them with everything they could wish for.
I spend all my free time with my family, don't play golf anymore or hang out with the boys. I try and clean the house as much as I can, go grocery shopping and do 50% of the cooking to help out. I buy my wife gifts without any occasion, send flowers, etc. She never buys me any gifts or plan a date nights for us.
I do take care of myself, work out , dress in up to date fashion and so on...
The problem is that over the last few years my wife has stopped showing affection completely and I can't figure out why! I never get a kiss or even a hug, even when I have a very stressfull day. When we do get into an arguement about it she does try and put an effort in but it only lasts a few days.
Needless to say sex has almost completely stopped and she never initiates.
My wife is still very good looking and very fit so no issues there.
The odd thing is that she dressed stylishly at home but in the last few months has taken to wearing big "grandma" type sweaters around the house and has also thrown out all her sexy panties. It looks like she is trying to make sure I don't get turned on.
The other bone of contention is that she never comes to bed when I do. I work late and even if I am exhausted I will make the effort to spend time with her over a cup of tea every night just so that we have time together. She will fall asleep on the couch for 2-3 hours before coming to bed and then she sleeps on the far side in her new unsexy pajamas (used to wear sexy gowns up until a few months ago).
I don't know what to do! I'm at a loss...I can't think of making her life any easier. I think that I still have some appeal, women are attracted to me in and out of work but I have never cheated.
Sorry for the long post but I need some advice here please...do I leave, She pushing me to have an affair?
The talks have gotten minimal results and she does not want to go to counselling. Help!!!
Last edited by Reg; 04-13-2011 at 02:57 PM.