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Old 04-22-2011, 01:05 PM   #121 (permalink)
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Oh wow. So ti's like saying you will or won't have sex with her? Amazing. And gross. A little bit. That that is the only thought happening.
Yes, now you have it. The caveat is that is it ONLY a thought. As a married male it is not something I would act on if given the opportunity. It is just something that happens in my head. I can't shut it down.

Let me give you another example. I work with a woman who is exceptionally well endowed. Add to that the fact that she appears to have issues with the temperature in our office and you have something that no man in the building can take his eyes off of.

She has enormous breasts and her nipples will press through 3 layers of clothing to be easily visible. This is a situation where I actually feel bad for looking, but )(*$#)(*)(#*)*(!# it can't really be helped and it is almost INSTINCTIVE to look before dislocating your neck to look away.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:06 PM   #122 (permalink)
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I will say I am VERY thankful my husband cared enough to understand Me during that time -instead of judging me & taking these things too personal, that would have only caused me shame and more pain. If he was some moralist, I don't think I could have soared through this as nicely as we have, I thank God for men like him.
Wish my wife would of caught the testosterone mid life crisis instead of the wish I was single mid life crisis. I would gladly support her through that even if I was worn out 24/7 and I had to walk around for a year gingerly. Then again my love language is physical touch. Glad you can laugh about it now though
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:11 PM   #123 (permalink)
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She has enormous breasts and her nipples will press through 3 layers of clothing to be easily visible. This is a situation where I actually feel bad for looking, but )(*$#)(*)(#*)*(!# it can't really be helped and it is almost INSTINCTIVE to look before dislocating your neck to look away.
LOL at dislocating your neck!

Well, women on the board... I know it's not just me , but I have checked out a dude's , erm, package before and thought one caught me staring. Thought I think women are better are playing these things off than men. Hee hee.

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Depending on the man their thought process might be slightly different some actualy visualize bedding the woman
Wow. So they imagine the entire act sometimes? Is it like a flash? How detailed is this fantasy? I wonder how many people have had mental/mind/yes/no sex w/ me in their head. Bananas!

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And, when you have a superb partner - as I do - you can find a bit of heaven nearly every single day.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:16 PM   #124 (permalink)
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its a fantasy, just like any other fantasy. it sounds like some responses assume it would be acted on or that it is somehow real. not in my case, never. but if i was in the dating scene, i might actually romantically pursue a woman based on physical attraction, right?
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:17 PM   #125 (permalink)
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I think what it comes down to is the level of love you feel your partner gives you. If i felt he truly loved me, gave me the attention i needed, i don't think this would be much of an issue. If he respected me more, didn't stare at every chick's @ss, I wouldn't be upset about those random/fleeting thoughts he may be having about those women.
To this I say "AMEN". This is how It works , at least in MY marraige it does. I hope you wll find this, nothing can compare, I am not at all bothered by my husband looking. Other women think I am crazy out of my mind, but it is because of the way he TREATS me, the way he has ALWAYS treated me. I could not feel any more secure & the fact he wants to look, for me , shows his hormones are not getting too low, I worry about his Test.

Not many wives have this issue, so my situation is unique! The Encron felt he may need Treatment someday. This frightened me, I worried for months over it, almost got depressed, worrying about the future. Some studies say even looking at porn can raise your Test, so hey, sounds good to Me! We enjoy it together. (I can feel Syrums response coming)
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:20 PM   #126 (permalink)
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First, please, let's not go down the "women wanted a protector/provider path" again, since there is no evidence to suggest that.

Let's remember that a lot of early societies were matriLINEAL, with families organized around the women's household, brothers/uncles mentoring young boys/men, serial monogamy, etc., etc. As more than one African noted to Muslim scholars, you *know* the child coming out of your sister shares your blood; you can't be sure about the child born to your wife/sexual partner.

There is also evidence to suggest women prefer relatives for living partners (people with whom they share more genetic background), while prefering those who are genetically diverse as sexual partners. IE, matrilineal--live with your brothers (when they aren't shacking up with their latest hunny), mate with your. . .current mate. Change mates every year or two; genetic diversity in YOUR offspring will improve the chances of your genetic material getting passed on.
Wasn't nessicarly arguing protector provider path I was arguing saftey and security. In the outline you layed out the women have both in ample amounts and in a more reassuring manner as it is the brothers, uncles and grandfathers that are offering that security and saftey and to an even greater extent the other women in the house. It is still there though and allows the female to diversify the genetic line easier and I will not argue that. It also removes a core element from the selection of a mate to where you are judging upon the genetic material he can offer to your line. Are you going to pick the town drunk or that guy who is always coming up with new and more efficent ways of doing something. The guy that can't lift a trash bag or the guy that runs marathons.

Men defnitley work off smell as well. I can smell a "dirty" girl as soon as she walks in the room.And I am not talking cycle she can be drop dead gorgeous but something about her scent will make we want to rip her throat out (not saying I ever would do that to a woman instead I avoid them like the plague.)My wife has commented on it because my neck and arm hairs will actualy stand on end and I will start rubbing my nose or snorting. Anything with to much scent does this to me as well male or female. Nothing worse then the smell of a "dirty" woman.

*dirty in quotes as I have never bedded one or taken the time to get to know one I have no clue if they actually have STD's or anything of the sort.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:22 PM   #127 (permalink)
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I don't understand the "dirty" smell thing. Please explain.

Like, you can tell if she is a skank??? Or "dirty" good? I am so lost here. LOL.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:25 PM   #128 (permalink)
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Wow. So they imagine the entire act sometimes? Is it like a flash? How detailed is this fantasy? I wonder how many people have had mental/mind/yes/no sex w/ me in their head. Bananas!
Having been in the Marines for four years seen the whole wide range. I knew guys that not only would do the fantasy thing in their heads their hands would well go in their pockets. Wouldn't jerk off or anything but that body language says alot...needless to say most women stayed away from those ones and they tended not to be choice A meat in other factors as well.

Most of my fellow Marines were mild fantasies of the sort Wow imagine what she could do with those legs without specifics. About ten percent of us were the just recoknize the fact type and move along with no actual fantasies involved. Five percent were detailed fantasies and yes they always shared them another five percent were the brain dead droolers and 1 percent were the above mentioned creeps that could only get some when paid for and then not even at the "good" places but the old beat down places.
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^ I love that you've broken it down in to mathematical percentages. LOL. "1% are creeps."
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:33 PM   #130 (permalink)
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I don't understand the "dirty" smell thing. Please explain.

Like, you can tell if she is a skank??? Or "dirty" good? I am so lost here. LOL.
Skank dirty.They set me on edge everytime. They can be visualy stunning but if they "smell" wrong I just go on edge and won't let them near me. I can't describe the smell I know it when I smell it. But I lack the words to describe I have never found another smell like it. Whereas I think my wife smells wonderful all the time. She can go work out hard at the gym come home reeking of sweat but even that smell is pleasing to me on some level.

Wait I know how to describe it now. I remeber when me and my wife first got together she had a roommate. We were out all week and her roommate got a boyfriend and they screwed all week in the room didn't open up any windows didn't shower nothing but lying in bed in their own sex filth for a week, thats what I smell. It smells like dirty sex and not dirty as in kinky.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:37 PM   #131 (permalink)
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Having been in the Marines for four years seen the whole wide range. I knew guys that not only would do the fantasy thing in their heads their hands would well go in their pockets. Wouldn't jerk off or anything but that body language says alot...needless to say most women stayed away from those ones and they tended not to be choice A meat in other factors as well.

Most of my fellow Marines were mild fantasies of the sort Wow imagine what she could do with those legs without specifics. About ten percent of us were the just recoknize the fact type and move along with no actual fantasies involved. Five percent were detailed fantasies and yes they always shared them another five percent were the brain dead droolers and 1 percent were the above mentioned creeps that could only get some when paid for and then not even at the "good" places but the old beat down places.
You totally described most groups of guys I've ever hung out with.

And this men's clubhouse sucks, who let all the women in

If any guy got as deep as this thread in a real clubhouse he'd be ribbed so bad. I can't even say most of the things he'd be called
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Sounds like we're now prosecuting thought crimes.

Strange thread.
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Old 04-22-2011, 01:39 PM   #133 (permalink)
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^ I love that you've broken it down in to mathematical percentages. LOL. "1% are creeps."
Haha one day I will have to give you my alternate to time being the fourth dimension. Its no,t time, space, and continuum or a seprate set of triple dimensions that our three dimensions reside in. I can visualize it but am still working on the mathematical proof.

Heinlenn gives a good example of it in Number of the Beast but his explanation does not carry with it a proof just a visualization of the concept. Einstein also touched on it with the bending of space.

No I am not a rocket scientist or anything I can just never turn my brain off so when I get bored my brain starts doing math equations and figuring theoroms out and stuff (most already discovered some useless or not efficent.) No I am not going to go to college grunt work for me to keep me busy and turn my brain off.
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And this men's clubhouse sucks, who let all the women in
Should spank their bums and send them on their way.
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Should spank their bums and send them on their way.
I think its payback because we keep barging into theirs
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