Maybe .......maybe not. After some of the guilt and apology statements in the last week I think she just cant process it and she is not getting help. MC tomorrow. Subject matter ......seperation.
She is staying at our seasonal. I am limiting contact. All contact has been made first by her.
The plan is to seperate, agreement made up discussed at MC. On That note why does a woman cry and get angry when you agree to give her what she wants ie:seperation?
The more I agree on seperation, display my confidence the more time we have limited contact = She calls and texts me more. She picks up son this morning and is flirty with me and very engaging with me.
So yeah seperation. 5 kids .........there's still alot of interaction.
The plan is to seperate, agreement made up discussed at MC. On That note why does a woman cry and get angry when you agree to give her what she wants ie:seperation?
The more I agree on seperation, display my confidence the more time we have limited contact = She calls and texts me more. She picks up son this morning and is flirty with me and very engaging with me.
So yeah seperation. 5 kids .........there's still alot of interaction.
Simple: she wanted you to cave in and beg and plead. Then she would be in control of the situation.
well I asked and the Question So if the seperation is what you WANT, why do you get upset and cry?
"It is what i (pause) think is best (avoiding the word want here) for right now. It is unfair for me to cause you or anybody else more pain. So I will go and suffer on my own.... it is still not easy it is like going to get a root canal painful but needs to be done"
She wouldn't say want. She wants to be rescued. But if you do, it had better be with the stipulation she still needs to work through it until she understands why. I'd call that a cry for help and forgiveness.
Perhaps that is what she wants. She also txtd tonight thanking me for letting hr go out to our seasonal I didn't respond I would have opened some can of worms by saying more than less. Not hanging on waiting for her if anyone has that impression. Went out with my kids tonight had fun. Posted via Mobile Device
wow a month since i posted here. I have been increasing intensity on her on since we have "agreed" to seperate making it real, reminding her she must talk to the kids, giving her a real seperation agreement, stickingh to my guns on the fact that she cant reconcile with the intense relationship discussion and I said well I cannot without transparency. So initially she was going to run errands and stay out for the night at her temp arrangement. I stuck to it and just calmly said fine then you are doing all that we can write up an a divorce agreement have it notarized with mediation and goto court next week. She challenged me on that. I stuck to it.
Her normal gone for the night stuff is still here. I needed to vent so I can go have fun with the kids. Her divorce filing expired I got a copy of the dismissal when I went to the courthouse, almost filed myself. .........Don't want to spend the money. I would rather spend it on something happy for the kids.
So I need some encouragement here. If even just to remain true to myself.
File Disbelief. Get an attorney and have him draw up a negotiated settlement. You must be hitting your limit. She will either drop off the fence or it will go through. Take control of your life and take it back, with or without her. You have put in more than a valiant effort. Time to lock and load and either she does or she doesn't. As always your call, JMHO. I'm tired of feeling the pain, I can't imagine where you are other than numb.
Re: Help keep me manned up, post EA/PA 
