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Old 10-10-2008, 12:03 AM   #1 (permalink)
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I haven't done it, have nothing going with any women, I know all the possible consequences and the wife and I have sex regularly but I can't help longing to be with someone less familar. I know I could ask her to try new things but that wouldn't help.. any suggestions?
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Old 10-10-2008, 12:16 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Yeah don't cheat.

The more you love and respect your wife the less cheating will even cross your mind.

Cheating is an act of selfishness. It often destroys the relationship and the parner at the same time.

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Old 10-10-2008, 09:00 AM   #3 (permalink)
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It will forever scar your marriage if it does't end it. Don't do it!

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Old 10-10-2008, 09:31 AM   #4 (permalink)
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just remember that there are consequences to this action. you will forever change your marriage (even if your wife never finds out) if you follow through with these thoughts. you will most certainly hurt your wife and most definitely will hurt yourself. cheating is not something that is easy to live with on either side of the coin! you may not be able to live with yourself afterwards! i'm sure in your mind your thoughts are cut & dry, black & white, but a situation like that always involves emotions no matter what you tell yourself! what is the problem in your marriage that is making you feel this way? give your wife & you a chance to address any issues before you decided to change things on your own!
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Old 10-10-2008, 12:18 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Maybe you should try some role playing. That will feel as though you are with someone else, but you are not killing your marriage by sleeping with someone else.
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