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Old 06-02-2011, 11:27 AM   #151 (permalink)
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Old 06-03-2011, 07:57 AM   #152 (permalink)
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The same thing that makes any woman attractive to me:

Keeps herself fit physically and mentally; meaning no major hang ups or mental issues, as well as somebody who hasn't decided that after the ring went on the need to keep herself healthy went away.

Pretty (totally subjective, but my "type" is the innocent looking girl-next-door Jennifer Aniston types, as opposed to the way too made up "glamorous" types)

Exudes sexuality (doesn't have to mean trashy by the way)

Dresses in a way that does not suggest that she's mentally on the journey to being 70.

Doesn't hate/seethe about men

Reasonably long hair (yep, I said it, short hair normally hits around the late 20's and sticks with an awful lot of women for some reason and wow, it's just not my cup of tea).

Hasn't thrown in the towel on her youthful idealism

Has my sexual kinks
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Old 02-15-2012, 09:48 AM   #153 (permalink)
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What makes a 35+ woman attractive to you?
She's a woman.



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Old 02-16-2012, 03:54 PM   #154 (permalink)
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Good afternoon, Ladies.

First of all, there is beauty in every woman. It reminds me of Don Juan Demarco's (movie) comment, made by actor Johnny Depp, and one of my favorite quotes from that movie. He is speaking about the beauty he finds in all woman:

"By seeing beyond what is visible to the eye. Now there are those, of course, who do not share my perceptions, it's true. When I say that all my woman are dazzling beauties, they object. The nose of this one is too large; the-the hips of another, they are too wide; perhaps the breasts of a third, they are too small. But I see these women for how they truly are... glorious, radiant, spectacular, and perfect, because, I am not limited by my eyesight."

Now, this is not to say that some women aren't especially gifted with physical attractiveness, but the charm of that wears off very fast if she doesn't have a warm, attractive personality. By that I mean:

Fun to be with (playful, sense of humor)
Unselfish
Doesn't put others down (including other women)
Has vitality, spunk, verve, energy (whatever you may call it)
Is comfortable with her body and has confidence
Is able to enjoy sensuality and knows what she likes and wants and communicates it (we can't read minds)
Really enjoys others' company (friends, relatives, dates) - makes others feel appreciated
Really enjoys life and lives each day to the full

You know the kind of person I'm talking about - the kind who makes you feel like you're the only person in the room when they're talking to you, that makes you laugh, but can be serious too, and just makes you feel enriched to have been in their company, whether intimately or just in a casual conversation.

With that said, any woman can be sexy and beautiful, because it's already within them. It's a choice, an attitude, it's spirit, it's an action. An attractive woman is one who embraces her feminity as a strength and celebrates it by living life to the full and being the best she can be. She is discrete but not closed off, friendly but not loose, sensual but not unfaithful. She is comfortable in her own skin and, like Adele, realizes she can be awesomely beautiful without being 105 pounds.

Women only get better with age. I'm a 41 year-old man, and I don't think younger women are more desirable than "older" (over 40) women. My wife is 39 and will be 40 this September, but I've been with her since she was 16 and I can honestly say she is more sexy and beautiful to me now than ever. I tell her so, too. (This is not a gratuitous comment - she doesn't log onto there so I have no brownie points to gain by that comment).

One of the saddest things to me is how "******* Avenue" (ie, marketing) exploits the insecurities of men and women. With women, it's the fear of aging (or the appearance of it), and with men it's their penis size. In reality, it's what you do with what you got that counts.

The one problem I believe men have in dating older women is that these women have now lived long enough to have had one or more bad experiences with men, and can (if not careful) generalize a bad attitude toward all men ("all men are dogs" etc.). Older women might be jaded by the bad experiences they've had. On the other hand, maybe they're more mature and appreciate the things that matter. Maybe they have learned what they like and how they like to be pleased, and they have fully accepted and embraced themselves.

A real man searches the beauty that a woman possesses, and appreciates it. Another quote:

"Women react to me the way that they do, Don Octavio, because they sense that I search out the beauty that dwells within until it overwhelms everything else. And then they cannot avoid their desire, to release that beauty and envelope me in it."

"Every true lover knows that the moment of greatest satisfaction comes when ecstasy is long over and he beholds before him the flower which has blossomed beneath his touch."

You will notice that in my list of what makes a woman 35+ (or any woman) attractive does not include physical attributes. I'm not denying their existance or effect, but we men have probably all been around a physically gifted women who, after awhile, makes us feel like not wanting to be around them or who is not enjoyable to be around. Some physically attractive women seem to think they can just coast along on their looks alone, and so they don't have to put forth effort to develop their personality or be polite. On the other hand, we've been around women whom the world might not pick as the most physically attractive, but there was something about them that makes a man feel alive, energized, and warm in her presence. It's that playfulness, a smile, good conversation, a connection. It's a feeling of appreciation, of a fun person who is genuinely interested in someone other than herself.

Ladies, remember that age is an attitude. You can be old at 30 and young at 50. Do you understand what I'm saying? It's your attitude and your zest (that's one word I was looking for earlier) for life that makes the difference.

Come on, guys, let's be honest. What makes cheerleaders so attractive (okay, laugh, laugh, besides the physical)? Truly, that's not really it. I see ladies every day who look like they could be models. It's really more than just surface appearance. It's their energy that they exude. They look like they're having fun, they smile, and they have all that energy.

Ladies should be encouraged to know that while they should take care of themselves the best they can, they can be very sexy and attractive to men if they make the conscious choice and attitude to be so. Put aside your insecurities, your hangups, and put away the microscope you had focused on all your faults and imperfections.

There are men who want "real women," not air-brushed fantasies. Just delight in your womanhood and be the type of person you would like to be around yourself. Trust me, a man truly worthy of your time and affection will see and appreciate this from within you, and be drawn to your femininity.

To the beauty in all of you Ladies,
Warm regards,
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Old 02-16-2012, 04:23 PM   #155 (permalink)
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This is somewhat of a stolen thread topic concept from southbound. What makes a 35+ woman attractive to you guys?
The same things that make a 25 year old girl attractive to me with the added knowledge that the 35 year old actually knows how to use those things.


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Also, what would make you have the courage to approach that woman and strike up a conversation if you noticed there was no wedding ring?
She`d have to show "some" interest, a smile, "the look", something before I`d directly approach her.
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Old 02-16-2012, 04:26 PM   #156 (permalink)
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The same things that make a 25 year old girl attractive to me with the added knowledge that the 35 year old actually knows how to use those things.
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Forgive my ignorance.......what "things?"

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and yes I am being serious.
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Old 02-16-2012, 04:37 PM   #157 (permalink)
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Forgive my ignorance.......what "things?"

LOL

and yes I am being serious.
-Hair (I have a preference for brunettes)
-Eyes (Brunettes are even better with blue eyes)
-Body(I`ll have mine petite please)
-Intelligence/Wit ( I love a sharp tongue on a quick woman)
-Carriage (When a woman carries herself with confidence it's sexy to me)

From the OP`s outline it sounds as if we`re talking about meeting someone for the first time.
If that`s so then the above is all I`d have to go on probably.
25 or 35 if you have enough of what I find attractive in at least a couple of those categories you`ll interest me.


Where the 35 year old wins out is

-Life experience/knowledge( Sex is great but you`ve got to be able to talk about something during the lulls.

This is actually where my preference for the 35 year old is won over. I`d be better able to relate to her.
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Old 02-16-2012, 09:22 PM   #158 (permalink)
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Dean,

That's a good point. I can understand that women have to watch their backs for the criminals and the predators, but generally when a man smiles and says hello, he's not necessarily 1) flirting, 2) trying to pick you up, 3) a stalker, or 4) thinks that if you smile and say hi, you're giving him the green light to seduce. I'm concerned that in the (understandable) effort to protect ourselves and keep from giving the wrong signals, we've gone too far in the other direction. For all our instant messaging and modern communications technology, we've becomre more of a shut-off, closed society. We're suspicious of everyone, people don't say hello as much, women are closed off because 1) they are tired of being "hit on" and overreact to any man just being civil and saying good day as a pickup attempt; 2) they may have had an ex-stalker boyfriend and so their leery; 3) they think that if they smile and say hello to a man that he will want to get in their pants; etc. It's ironic that the more communication capability we have, the more we're losing our ability to be just plain civil. People look-past each other and are withdrawn into their own worlds. I'm not saying total strangers should just strike up a conversation like long-lost best friends, but let's find a happy balance somewhere.

Ladies, Dean's statement is simple yet profound: smile and say hello. This is the outgoing friendliness that is so attractive. Just for the mere fact that this seems to be rather rare nowadays, some man somewhere might take it to mean a bit more than it does, just because in doing so you'll stand out because so many others don't do this simple gesture.

Being attractive really isn't hard and doesn't cost thousands of dollars. It does take effort - effort to be kind, to converse, to focus on other people and their concerns and words, not just our own, and to smile and say hello and just be likable human beings. If you ladies would smile and just be civil, and not make us pay with your defense shields because some other guys were cads and tried cheesy pickup lines and shut you off to the rest of the guys, then your natural feminity that is so attractive to the masculine polarity of men will be free to shine through.

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Old 02-18-2012, 08:57 PM   #159 (permalink)
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Thirty five would be turning the clock way back should a lady of that age were to find me acceptable. As a matter of fact, so would one fifteen years older.
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Pretty feet = good.

Busted feet = bad.

The end.
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but not past 45?
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There are a LOT of beautiful women between 35-45 YO. The first thing that catches my eye is a great smile! Besides that a fun attitude, confidence, and doesn't have to have a perfect body but a woman that takes care of herself. An elegant look is more attractive than super casual I'd say. Heels not flip flops.

I'm 45 FWIW.
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I'm 46. So, I can't be good looking?
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Nice thread!

Too bad it was started before I joined TAM.

In my opinion , and this is just my opinion.
Doesn't mean that this has any bearing on anyone else's reality.

In my opinion, women look their best, and are at their sexual prime between the ages of 35 - 55.
Between those magical ages it's almost as if a switch is flipped on inside of them and insecurities simply disappear. They are comfortable with their bodies and natural self whether they are well dressed or naked.
I think that inner self confidence comes through real life experiences and a deeper understanding of themselves.[ those that actually work on themselves and have that.]



Men on the other hand tend to look their best between 17 - 40. They tend not to question their sexual ability between those ages because everything's still " functional." After 40 , very few men maintain themselves.
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I'm 46. So, I can't be good looking?
I like 46.....I like 56!
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