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Old 05-25-2011, 05:48 PM   #31 (permalink)
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So I have a question......do you prefer 35+ rather than younger women? All the guys here are saying very positive things but if they were the norm, you wouldn't have a bunch of guys chasing younger women.
In choosing to meet a man's gaze in the appraising way, an older woman brings a refined set of criteria to the equation. She knows what she wants and chooses to look at you. That's appealing.

In my twenties, I was fortunate to go to a party college. Many one night stands. For some reason, though, I had some relationships with older, sometimes married women. I'm a different person now, but I developed some personal bias back then. I had crushed my ankle in a brawl. Grew up with parents in a biker group. Even on the best days, I walk with a limp. Back then, I sometimes needed a cane. So, you have Joe Sixpack who is big into fitness. Having a John Wayne limp (as my friends called it) teaches you alot. The younger women didn't actually see me. Once they notice the limp, the lights go out for the most part. Okay for a one night stand, but not much more. The more mature women see me.
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In choosing to meet a man's gaze in the appraising way, an older woman brings a refined set of criteria to the equation. She knows what she wants and chooses to look at you. That's appealing.

In my twenties, I was fortunate to go to a party college. Many one night stands. For some reason, though, I had some relationships with older, sometimes married women. I'm a different person now, but I developed some personal bias back then. I had crushed my ankle in a brawl. Grew up with parents in a biker group. Even on the best days, I walk with a limp. Back then, I sometimes needed a cane. So, you have Joe Sixpack who is big into fitness. Having a John Wayne limp (as my friends called it) teaches you alot. The younger women didn't actually see me. Once they notice the limp, the lights go out for the most part. Okay for a one night stand, but not much more. The more mature women see me.
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You are a breath of fresh air and yes, I saw your post about your limp. So what! You have a limp. I bet we all have something that makes us different or as I like to see it, unique. Anybody who cannot see that isn't worth the time of day.
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Old 05-25-2011, 06:08 PM   #33 (permalink)
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The thing that scares my wife the most is that it isn't the young women I find attractive, because she knows most of them look right past an older guy.

I am 44 and tend to find women in the 35-50 year old range that are well put together.....clothes, makeup, jewelry, a confident smile the most attractive. Someone said something about curves.....I think that is something that men appreciate more with age....or at least I do. Women like I've mentioned making eye contact and acknowledging our eye contact can tend to distract me.....and I'm not one to oogle women in public.
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A women whose patina of fire lies just below the surface, simply waiting for a man who recognizes her inner flame, is a woman who draws my gaze. A fire unlit is far more engaging than a flame ready to be snuffed.
drdrfor you scare me! LOL!!! Did someone find their mom’s old stash of Harlequin Romance novels. LOL!!!! I’m only teasing because between my mom and two of her sisters, they could have opened up and stocked an entire secondhand book store with all of theirs. They had read so many that each of them would initial the inside covers to ensure no time would be wasted rereading the same novel. I once asked them, "How can you tell the difference from one novel to the next?"
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Not a justification or psychobabble. Read a book or at least watch some educational TV. We are just intelligent animals and there are underlying reasons for all our sexual behaviors. I agree that Halle Berry is hot but she doesn't exactly look like your typical 42 year old does she? She's a genetic wonder with unbelievable skin.
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I certainly find older women attractive. That doesn't mean I'd marry one. Jeez. . . Don't you all know it is the goal of marriage is to be productive as per the Catholic Church? You guys at Tam have a very romantic notion of marriage.


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I certainly find older women attractive. That doesn't mean I'd marry one. Jeez. . . Don't you all know it is the goal of marriage is to be productive as per the Catholic Church? You guys at Tam have a very romantic notion of marriage.


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Yep. I had the big, huge Catholic Ceremony that my father absolutely reveled in. On the other hand, my ex-husband chose to no longer follow those same marriage guidelines we (as Catholics) were brought up to hold so true to our beliefs. That about sums up my inability to receive weekly communion at mass. Heartbreaking because I was also confirmed before I had even reached my twenties.
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I am being tongue and cheek of course but there is an underlying message behind my humor. I usually reply here thru the filter of marriage ( mating for life ). I have never said anything about a shelf life; I have only spoken about optimal male-female pairing.

The truth is many of the women who get their panties in a wad at my assessments would be the strongest to overreact if their 26 up son brought home a 42 up female to meet you and said "gee whiz isn't she wonderful?"

As far as what makes a35 to female attractive. . .how come no man said boobs? A face will eventually become wrinkled... Boobs are forever.

(you can spare the references towards me ladies . )
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I am being tongue and cheek of course but there is an underlying message behind my humor. I usually reply here thru the filter of marriage ( mating for life ). I have never said anything about a shelf life; I have only spoken about optimal male-female pairing.

The truth is many of the women who get their panties in a wad at my assessments would be the strongest to overreact if their 26 up son brought home a 42 up female to meet you and said "gee whiz isn't she wonderful?"

As far as what makes a35 to female attractive. . .how come no man said boobs? A face will eventually become wrinkled... Boobs are forever.

(you can spare the references towards me ladies . )
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I just KNEW you would be here. You did say that a woman over 40 is limited. Boobs aren't forever either. Ever see gravity? Sure, they are still there but after a while, they look like tube socks. Not saying mine do btw.
Okay, so a man needs a younger woman, got it. So you are saying that a 40 something year old man needs a 26 year old for what? Having kids? I don't know of any 40 something year old man who wants to have more kids. Let's just call it like it is. An old man who likes young and strange.

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Not a justification or psychobabble. Read a book or at least watch some educational TV. We are just intelligent animals and there are underlying reasons for all our sexual behaviors. I agree that Halle Berry is hot but she doesn't exactly look like your typical 42 year old does she? She's a genetic wonder with unbelievable skin.
What does looks have to do with child bearing years? Absolutely nothing!! That is what makes your post psychobabble!!

Give me 100 18-22yr old 200lb woman or 1 40yr old with a hysterectomy and I know what I'm picking!!

Humans have free will jack the next thing you'll start spewing off about pheromones......or something.
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What does looks have to do with child bearing years? Absolutely nothing!! That is what makes your post psychobabble!!

Give me 100 18-22yr old 200lb woman or 1 40yr old with a hysterectomy and I know what I'm picking!!

Humans have free will jack the next thing you'll start spewing off about pheromones......or something.
Okay, but let's say those 18-22 year olds are 125lbs. Who would you go for?
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Ya, but boobs don't look the same forever either. Ever seen that movie “The Sweetest Thing”? Some days I feel like I can totally relate to a specific scene which has Cameron Diaz in it. However for me it’s more like “29...39...29...39...29...” LOL!!!!
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If she's 35 she'd have to not run away wierded out by this 53-year-old man!

Pretty face, well groomed, interested, flirty, aware of the world, can hold a conversation, up for road trips, can drink a glass a wine and not be REALLY picky about food.

Not stuck up. Smile that lights up my heart.

And that's true for whatever age. Mainly within 10 years of mine.
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If she's 35 she'd have to not run away wierded out by this 53-year-old man!

Pretty face, well groomed, interested, flirty, aware of the world, can hold a conversation, up for road trips, can drink a glass a wine and not be REALLY picky about food.

Not stuck up. Smile that lights up my heart.

And that's true for whatever age. Mainly within 10 years of mine.
There's a reason I adore you and why you will be a HOT commodity in the dating world. You sir are the real deal, a gentleman.
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