I have had girls in their 20's of late express interest in me lately, who I thought were repulsive on the inside, yet I have met an unwed physiotherapist in her mid 30's who I thought was gorgeous, even though most would say she was conventionally unattractive. She was awkward, gangly, sincere, intelligent, and did not wear make up, just how I like women. I didn't even bother trying to talk to her though, as she would most likely have a list of demands up the wazoo, 6ft+ tall, rich, handsome, etc.
I also get matched with various women on this dating site I lacklustrely signed up to, they send me constant emails, and they are all horrendous and shallow women, out of nowhere though, I was matched to a 35yo woman in my city, though originally from Switzerland I believe, and although most would say she is not attractive, I thought she was perfect, into bushwalking, diving, climbing, travelling, does not need make up. Again, can't bring myself to message her, as I just know she would only be wanting "Fabio" and would not really want someone like me.
I dunno if that helped answer your question, I guess I can see endless "pretty" women and feel nothing for them, but a woman who has her feet on the ground, who is real, who likes to do the same things as me, and who doesn't wear make up, I find very attractive, and I would stand by such a woman to hell and back.
This is rich coming from me,
but I recognise what you are doing as 'projecting' onto people you don't yet know. Don't bother with the internet, it's for girls who already have casual 'nice' boyfriends who want unprotected sex with 'fun' strangers. Not at all worth it.
Many years ago, I thought I'd found a girl, younger, who was shy, naïve, hardworking, honest, no tattoos, dressed modestly etc - you know ideal for longterm. When I dated her, I found out that she lived with her grandparents because she was out of control, her dad was god knows where, her sister was a drug addict, and her past boyfriends had all been revolting wannabe gangsters. She was also not that hardworking and thoroughly dishonest.
You are looking for a particular
personality, yet you are sifting the applicants by
appearance. To repeat the previous point, you are also searching through a medium designed for affair-sex to find a long-term partner. Does this make sense to you?
I believe that with this faulty thinking of yours, you wouldn't have noticed all the flaws in this 'innocent' girl I described to you, and you would now be paying child support to a drugged up narcissistic brat, looking on helplessly as your son/daughter's mother surrounded your child with abusers and losers.
You should stop projecting and introduce yourself to the women who interest you. There is nothing preventing you from walking away if they turn out slaggy. Just treat it as practice - which is good, for the real world. You will likely meet someone serious in a social club or hiking club where your interests co-incide, than in a bar or chatroom.
Don't be a sucker when you do meet people too. Stop projecting: pay attention instead to what you
really see and hear, and stop treating a good woman as a 'scarce commodity', you yourself through this mindset are making them rarer than they are, which will make you needy and clingy the effect of which is: when you do meet them, they'll sense fake-niceness/desperation and they'll run.
In reality, there are more than enough good ones, you just need to increase your chances of meeting them, by going to the right places, being patient and not too eager and simply spend time ... meeting them and enjoying their company - getting to know the real person, before even thinking of dating them.
Chances are, if you're happy-go-lucky and not pushy, they'll give you the signals anyway.
S.