This is somewhat of a stolen thread topic concept from southbound. What makes a 35+ woman attractive to you guys? Also, what would make you have the courage to approach that woman and strike up a conversation if you noticed there was no wedding ring? Physical and personality traits are acceptable answers on this one. There truly are no wrong answers.
However, try to refrain from the whole “She needs to look like Carrie Underwood, Scarlett Johansson, Jessica Biel or Megan Fox,” because they are SOOOO not even close to 35 years old. I’m certain you guys would hate to have the ladies play the whole “He needs to look like Matthew McConaughey,” comparison card.
NextTimeAround, I think it depends on the woman, not necessarily the age. Some women really take the time and make the effort to eat well and exercise, however old they are. This may have a lot to do with education level and social class.
The one I am talking about has master's and it looks as if she comes from a middle class family. She's Jewish. I don't think there are too many Jews in the lower classses and they are for the most part very well educated.
The owner of my gym and his wife is a former professional bodybuilder and his wife , a fitness model.
His wife is one of the fittest women in that gym, having one of those impossible - to - get physiques.
Waistline somewhere around 28" and her hips would be 38". [ I know these things because I am in that industry.]
Completely flat stomach , she mostly wears tank tops and yoga shorts.
Firm body with really decent cuts/ muscle definition in her abs , arms and legs.
I knew her husband's age, he's 43.
I used to think she was about 30 - ish.
Until I met her kids.
Her eldest daughter is 20 yrs old , so I asked her what was her age.
She smiled , and showed me her driver's licence.
At first? My 5 year old daughter. The thought of ripping apart the world she has always known killed me more than anything my wife did. She wouldnt understand and being the father automatically put me on the losing end of custody. The thought of not seeing her grow up everyday killed me.
Had we not had children, we wouldnt be together. So I stayed for my daughter and didnt know how I would ever reconcile with my wife at the time. She has been extremely remorseful and has done everything right so far. Its made R so much easier and the love I have for her slowly but surely coming back.
She lost a great husband who would do everything to make her life easier. She still has a great husband, but now she has one that she will never take for granted. I dont fear losing her. I never will. I already went through the pain of losing her. If she ever decides to cheat or go back to her old ways, I'm gone.
I havnt read the entire thread but though I would put in my two cents. Being 53, and to me, if I had a choice between a 25 year old pretty woman and a 40 year old pretty woman, Id absolutely go for the 40 year old without a doubt.
The fact that I have a 22 year old daughter probably factors in to the fact that I typically don't look at women in their 20's in that way. But mostly, its the maturity level of a woman that would be the difference for me.
In my mind, as far as looks go, there is nothing that a 25 year old woman would have over an older woman assuming they are equally attractive. I think the younger woman would be at a disadvantage due to the maturity, but that's me.
Thanks. All things considered, especially reading some stories on TAM, it could be worse.
She took her family to the brink of destruction and I hope that "woke her up" to the person she had become. So far, its seems to be the case.
Obviously I wish it had never happened, but I'm actually much happier now then I was between the the time she had the affair and dday. Shes back to being the woman I fell in love with, married, and lived with for 5 years. Only time will tell if she remains this way but if she doesnt, I wont hesitate to show her the door.
She used her only second chance. There will not be a third and she knows that.
Interesting thread...I am 40 and in sooooooo much better shape than when I was 20..and also smarter and wiser...found this article which is sort of related and it struck a cord with me so thought I would share:
Jewish women are attractive, especially in their 30's and 40's. I don't understand the mechanisms involved.
They tend to be intelligent, good conversationalists and internationalist in their views. They also tend to be crazy, but this is a quality I look for.
35, huh? Physique wise, primarily a relatively flat stomach with no evidence of tummy tuck. Typically, if that is in order the rest will be, too. I'm more of a big picture guy, in that I don't care that much about individual body parts as I do about the sum of the parts taken as a whole.
If I were really in the market, I'd be looking for the same thing I was looking for 35 years ago: general attractiveness and playfulness.
I have a really close female friend who's 55 yrs old.
She has three daughters. The middle daughter is about 22 yrs old.
They both actually wear each other's fitted jeans and tops.
They wear the same size dresses too.
Christie Brinkley looks AMAZING but the mug shot of Justin Bieber on the cover just killed it for me! What was People thinking??!! Posted via Mobile Device
P-P-P-P-please.
I have seen so much before/after photo retouching on celeb photos. I agree Halle et al are beautiful, but when you have real people with real insecurities about their age and how it is affecting their DOW JONES in dating circles, and then you throw up a very likely airbrushed and photoshopped pic of a celeb who has very likely had a zillion dollars worth of plastic surgery BEFORE the photo shop... well, just stick a fork in me. I'm done.
Men and women both age. Men do it "gracefully" (meaning, women seem to appreciate the changes that nature throws at men.) Women do it... Jeez. I was on a particularly harsh site ...
answered some questions related to my dateability. Turns out, even though I think I'm pretty shagarific, I should be looking at the Hank Hills as prime catch and his beer bellied buddy Bill as basically my average. According to them, if I dare to turn 49, my score automatically goes to "Why are you still alive?" FT.
Turned over to the guy quiz, and guess what? Much kinder scale.
It's like me posting a Johnny Depp photo of him in his 20's and saying, yeah, see? Older guys can rock. GIVE. ME. A. BREAK. please?
Just so you know, the guy who runs the website you mentioned is Daryush Valizadeh, better known as Roosh V or Chateau Heartiste. He wrote self published books about how to rape your way through foreign countries. He also literally moved out of his fathers basement at the age of 29. He attracts the scourge of the Earth and has no shortage of them.
I thought you should know how "hot" he is so here is a link to his picture. I'll leave you to your laughter.
Mmmm. Of course, if you look at the picture, you know who he thinks he is, who he is emulating with the
Long hair
Bushy Beard
and Hypnotistical stare-eyes technique?
I wish the word 'hot' would drop out of American vocabulary. It's so stupid. As UH4MB points out, the correct term is shagarific or "well-fit" or "proper tidy".
Best compliment I ever received was when a guy I was dating said I looked scandalous. "Proper tidy" is what I do every Sunday morning with a can of Pledge.
The same can be said for a man...a man can be "hot", "beautiful", whatever but if he opens his mouth and sh*t comes out, his "hotness level" decreses substantially... Posted via Mobile Device
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