Recently went to a concert - kind of "Pop-country" if you will - with my wife and my in-laws. Surrounded by a lot of younger girls.
But there were two women - over 35 who caught my attention more than the younger girls.
One woman was just very social and outgoing. Her personality was kind of "bubbly." She seemed to be talking to everyone around her. She and her husband were both drinking beer - holding hands - and were both dancing together when the concert started. Yes - she was very "pretty" and a good dancer - but a lot of it was personality.
Then there were two women with their older daughters (kids were maybe 13 or so) sitting right in front of us. One of the daughters kept taking pictures of her mom. Her Mom was probably a few years older than 35 - and was again very "pretty." But I was just AMAZED at seeing a 13 year old daughter who genuinely seemed to be having a good time with her mother at a concert. Hard to explain - but my wife that night was dressed in a sparkly sliver shirt - showing cleavage - kept taking her own picture. To me - it felt like I was out with a 25 year old - and I don't mean that in a good way. And although the woman in front of us was dressed modestly, I couldn't help but "notice" her - almost like looking at her through her own daughter's eyes. I KNOW how my 11 year old would have reacted to my wife's "LOOK AT ME" behavior and appearance.
Not sure if this has made much sense. But - to try and sum up - the attaction was only partially physical. And secondly - a lot of it was me being attracted to something I think I'm missing. One woman - drawing attention to herself by just being bubbly. The other - looking like Mom of the Year. Contrasted by my wife - a 39 year old trying to look 10 years younger - taking her OWN picture to put on Facebook to SHOW everyone how much fun she's having.
The first thing I always notice abou a woman, any woman, is her hair. And I am partial to longer, thick hair worn down.
Femininity oozes in everything she does.
Smiles easily, and for real - no falseness. With good teeth.
Poise and self-pride/confidence, in how she walks, talks, and acts even when no one's looking.
Eye contact when talking, when listening, and when there's silence.
Not sloppy - in dress, in relative physical fitness.
Can talk with her eyes... especially to a man, to tell you to 'go away', or 'come hither'.
All the body parts just 'work' together.
Sure boobs matter, but they need to fit the body they're on. An appropriate bra if there's 'sag'... or even if there's not. You want ot see 'firmness'. Height/weight proprtionate; doesn't need to be a workout maven. A flat stomach does amazing things to a woman's entire body...
Confident enough to 'show off what she's got', without flaunting any of it.
Can wear a bathing suit in public without embarassment.
Looks great even with wet hair and no makeup.
Unafraid and uninhibited sexually, without being trashy.
Some cleavage & good shoes help. I hate 'flats'; love heels, boots.
Oh - and doesn't cheat on her man... and makes no ones about it...... I started that comment tongue-in-cheek, but there IS something very attractive that can ooze from a woman that lets it be known she is WITH her man and quietly, confidently adores him.
I really was just totally blown away that a 13 year old girl would be taking so many pics of her mom!!!
She adores her mom thats why. The woman I know cares more about herself than her kids. Oh she goes through the motions of being a great mom but it's fake. We all went skating one day with our kids. Most of the moms were up skating too but not this woman. She spent the whole time on her blackberry. She got up once and skated just to pose for pictures to put on FB. Not of her kids mostly her.
Whats sad is she's a beautiful woman but her snobbiness makes her ugly.
Financial independence. Leads a healthy and active lifestyle, maybe runs, plays tennis, golf. Into healthy food, grows her own fruit and veg, maybe has some chickens!!! Good cook, well looked after body, well within her BMI. Adventurous and likes the outdoor life. Not afraid of confrontation and telling like it is in a mature way. Into DIY and house renovation.
Teeter-tottering between feelings of confidence and gloom after reading a lot of great posts on this thread. The confidence part is how I have been repeatedly told I possess so many of these traits. Not just by males either. (And not by females in a weird way. Well, at least I'm hoping not) . The gloomy part is, I have so dated the wrong men who do not recognize these traits. Or ...... if they do realize it, they get scared and leg bail. UGH!!!
The thing is - the hard boiled truth of it - is that we ALL get older. We ALL get wrinkles, gray hair, and body parts that start to sag that were once up and at attention. It's simply a fact of life. Men age just the same as women age. Age is nondiscriminatory. It doesn't care if you're male, female; handsome, beautiful, ugly; white, black, purple; rich or poor. Young men and women who feel their youth and beauty is their power will shortly learn that those years are short and are over in the blink of an eye. If a person does not take the time to cultivate other attractive qualities, they're going to be left with a pretty empty bag down the road. I personally find people - men and women - of all ages attractive. A lot of one's beauty comes from within. Confidence also helps a lot.